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Written
By: C. Michael Smith
Your bedroom might just be the most important room in your home.
Most people spend more time in their bedroom than they do in any
other room in the house, if you think about it. It's the place
where you wrap up each day and the place where you start off each
brand new day. Your bedroom can serve several purposes. When you
are not sleeping, the bedroom can be a great retreat to relax,
unwind, and escape from it all to read a book, listen to music,
or spend time with someone special. It's also the room where you
probably do most of your lovemaking. One thing is for sure, the
bedroom is not just for sleeping, anymore!
Let's
talk about how to turn your bland bedroom into a beautiful boudoir.
Whether you just need a few ideas to help spice up an already
sexy bedroom or you need a complete bedroom makeover, the tips
that follow will help you transform your bedroom into a romantic
and relaxing retreat, perfect for a getaway from your hectic schedule
or for indulging in a romantic rendezvous with your partner.
The
perfect bedroom should elicit an emotional response, radiate romance
and relaxation, project sensuality, and help you forget all of
life's stresses. When you enter the perfect bedroom, you can't
help but feel relaxed and sexy. All of your worries and anxieties
are left at the door.
"To
me, a sexy bedroom is one where the passion just emotes from the
walls." Stephanie, 19
The
key for great relaxation and romance lies in creating the perfect
atmosphere and mood. In order to help create the perfect atmosphere
and mood, your bedroom should appeal to each of your five senses.
Let's start by taking a look at the five senses. Evaluate your
bedroom and find the areas that need the most help.
SIGHT:
Is your bedroom appealing to the eyes? Does it appear warm, comfortable,
romantic, sexy, inviting, uncluttered, and relaxing? The following
tips will help your bedroom appeal to the sense of sight.
Lighting:
- The lighting
in the perfect bedroom should generally be soft and low wattage.
Consider installing a dimmer switch for your overhead light,
so you can change the mood of the room easily. Colored bulbs
or low wattage bulb will help, also.
- 3-way
light bulbs in bedside lamps are great for reading in bed. Lamp
shades can help tame bright light, as well.
- If you
like lamps in your bedroom, you can purchase lamps with a glass
base at craft stores or home-improvement stores. The bases can
be filled with something sexy like rose petals or other romantic
items, for a creative, yet sexy look.
- For special
romantic evenings, candlelight is very popular. Candles can
really add a romantic look to your bedroom. To symbolize a happy
and close relationship, consider placing 2 candles close together.
- Mirrors
can really accentuate the lighting in your room, also. Consider
placing romantic lighting, such as candles, in front of mirrors
or even on top of mirrors to enhance their glow.
- If you
place a larger mirror on the wall opposite of a window, it will
help reflect natural light and open the room up a bit.
- If you
place a mirror where you can see yourselves in bed, it can make
a steamy lovemaking session downright hot!
- Just for
fun, and to mix things up a bit, you can try keeping a strobe
light handy. Strobe lights can make your lovemaking session
look like a dream sequence.
- For another
fun idea, you can also buy body paints that glow in the dark
under blacklight. Of course you'll need a blacklight, also.
Bed:
The
bed is the centerpiece of your bedroom. Buy the biggest bed that
you can afford that will fit in your room. There's nothing like
having a large bed to play on.
- Spice
up your bed. Add a romantic bed tent or canopy to your
existing bed, even if it isn't a four-poster bed. This isn't
as expensive as you might think.
- Or, make
your own canopy. It's cheap and easy. Just purchase several
yards of sexy fabric from your local craft or fabric store.
Next, screw eye hooks into the ceiling at each corner of your
bed and run the fabric through the hooks so that it drapes near
the ground, overhead, then down again. Do this on both sides
of your bed. You can even add a third eyehook on each side of
the bed right in the middle of the other two, for more control
of the draping of the fabric. This will give you a look similar
to that of a four-poster canopied bed for just a few bucks.
- How about
turning your existing bed into a four-poster by purchasing a
four-poster bed frame? You can also buy some drapes for
it to give your bed a very romantic look.
- Add lots
of pillows to your bed. The more the merrier. Get pillows of
different colors, fabrics, textures, and sizes. Imagine how
sexy you will look propped against a mountain of soft, comfy
pillows.
- You can
also try a 'Secret Stash Pillow'. They come in fun, sexy, animal
prints and have a secret pocket inside to stash your favorite
sex toy.
- Rose
petals can be sprinkled over your bed for a romantic,
sexy look.
Colors:
Paint is a very
quick, easy, and affordable way to dramatically transform your room.
Color really goes a long way to help create the mood of the room,
so choose warm, inviting colors that make you feel your best.
- Here is a
list of colors along with the mood they can help create:
Pastels: romantic
Red: very passionate and sexy
Deep, rich purples: luxury and mystery
Blues, lavenders, & greens: cool, calming, subdued, nature-like,
large and airy
Yellows, oranges, & golds: warm, cozy, and inviting
- If you want
to avoid painting your walls with a strong color, then you can
use a more neutral color like white, off-white, gray, or beige
and then add color to your room with accessories.
- Wallpaper
borders can be added to your painted walls to add detail and help
incorporate your sense of style and personality into the room.
Other:
- An area rug
can add richness and personality to your room. It can also help
cover up any bad spots on your flooring.
- Small pictures
of you and your partner in unusual frames will add a romantic
and intimate touch to your room.
- Guys, how
about adding a large framed picture of your lady to the wall?
MyDaVinci.com specializes in transforming your photos into pencil
sketches, oil paintings, watercolor paintings, and much more.
I've worked with them before and they do great work. Check them
out HERE.
- Buy some
romantic figurines and knick-knacks to showcase in your room.
They can add a lot of personality and style.
- Consider
buying a plant or two, such as ivy, for your bedroom. Plants recreate
the feeling of nature and they freshen the air, too.
- If you have
plain looking curtains, try spicing things up a bit by replacing
them with billowy, lacy curtains. These look terrific and if you
have a quiet, low-speed fan in the room, the curtains will sway
back and forth, creating a billowy motion.
- Make sure
you have some sexy clothes to wear in your bedroom, unless you
prefer to prance around naked. Sexy clothes will ensure that YOU
remain the focal point of the room, no matter how sexy and remarkable
your bedroom is. Ladies, consider some sexy lingerie. And, men,
when you climb into bed wearing the same dress socks and underwear
that you've had on all day long, you aren't really projecting
your sexy-best.
- Try some
glow
in the dark body glitter to get your partner's attention
and keep things fun.
"The
best thing you can do to make your room sexy, is clean it. Clean
laundry piled on the dresser does not make for a sexy retreat."
Katie, 37
SOUND:
Our sense of hearing can really lend itself to creating a relaxing
and sexy (or upbeat and spunky) mood. The following tips will help
your bedroom appeal to the sense of sound.
- Music can
really add ambience to your room and help create the perfect mood,
whether soft, smooth, and relaxing, or upbeat and aggressive,
so keep a small sound system handy along with your favorite CDs.
- In the heat
of passion, it helps if your music source requires very little
attention. You don't want to have to get up in the middle of the
action to flip the cassette or restart the CD. Auto-reverse and
repeat are invaluable features on your audio system.
- Thick curtains
can help eliminate distracting noises from outside and may also
help muffle your own noises from your neighbors, if you know what
I mean.
- Make sure
if you have a phone in the bedroom that is has a ringer-off feature.
Be sure to use it when you make love.
- Keep some
dancing music handy. Have you ever danced naked with your partner?
SMELL:
Did you know that your nose is connected to the limbic system of
the brain, which controls libido? Certain scents can evoke specific
moods or memories and can also help induce sexual arousal. The following
tips will help your bedroom appeal to the sense of smell.
Bed
Linens:
There are several ways to help keep your bed linens smelling sexy
and wonderful. Try these:
- "Add
several drop of your favorite aromatherapy oil to the softener
section of your washing machine while you launder your sheets
in hot water.
- Add several
drops of your favorite aromatherapy oil to a small cotton handkerchief
or washcloth and throw it in the dryer with your bed linens.
- Try spraying
your sheets with a sheet scent spray, such as 'Smooth as
Velvet'.
- You can also
dust some 'Kama
Sutra Honey Dust' between your sheets. Honey dust absorbs
perspiration and smells wonderful, too, and it won't get sticky
like a lot of powders.
- You an also
fill a spray bottle with water and add a few drops of your favorite
essential oil and then spray it on your sheets. The scent is said
to last for weeks.
Other:
- Fresh flowers
not only smell great, but they look great, also, and can really
catch your eye and evoke a romantic and sexy mood.
- Scented candles
are terrific. Again, they serve a dual purpose. They not only
smell great, but they look great, also
- Have you
ever heard of a scented candle that doubles as a sexy and great
smelling warm massage oil? Well, now you have. Jenne reviewed
this product for us on Clitical.com a while back. You can read
her review, find out what she thought about it, and learn where
you can get one too by clicking HERE:
- Incense
or potpourri can really add some great smelling mood to your room,
also.
- Does your
partner like it when you wear their favorite cologne/perfume?
When my lady wears my favorite perfume to bed, I know she's in
the mood and the scent just drives me crazy with desire.
Don't
overdo it with scents. If you're using scented sheets, fresh flowers,
scented candles, incense, potpourri, and cologne or perfume all
at once, you are more likely to produce an overwhelming and headache-inducing
effect rather than the relaxing and sexy effect you are trying for.
TASTE:
Food and sex can often go hand in hand. Whether you use sexy finger
food as erotic foreplay, you use food during sex, or you just get
hungry afterwards, food is never too far removed from sex, it seems.
The following tips will help your bedroom appeal to the sense of
taste.
Fridge:
Do you have room for a small fridge somewhere near your bed, out
of sight, like in a closet? If so, you can keep supplies close at
hand so you won't have to run off to the kitchen for something to
drink or some sexy food to play with or eat. Here are some ideas
on how to stock it:
- Cold drinks
can be removed from the fridge and placed on coasters on the nightstand
before sex for a nice refreshing break during sex or afterwards.
Try some bottled water, champagne, or wine.
- Keep some
ice handy for those cold drinks. And ice can be erotically fun
to play with, also.
- Sexy finger
foods like cheese, strawberries, whipped cream, chocolates, and
other fresh fruit would make a terrific addition to your sex fridge.
- Sauces to
drip on and suck off of your partner would also be great to have
on hand. Why not consider honey, syrup, chocolate, strawberry,
or another favorite sauce.
Other
items to keep on hand:
- Bed tray
for serving breakfast or a sexy snack in bed.
- Corkscrew
for your adult beverages.
- Knife or
cheese cutter.
- Set of champagne
or wine glasses.
- Ice bucket
to hold a chilling bottle of champagne or wine on the night stand
or bedside table.
- Classy dish
to serve your sexy finger foods on.
Just imagine
the setting you could create with just a little preparation. In
the candlelight, I see an elegant plate full of finger foods next
to 2 waiting glasses of wine. Can you hear the soft music playing?
Sounds sexy, huh?
Other ideas:
- After showering,
lightly dust yourself with powdered sugar. Don't tell your partner;
they'll just think you taste wonderful.
- Try applying
some body
toppings to each other. They can be a lot of fun to apply
and they are even more fun to lick off. They come in several flavors,
so pick your favorite.
TOUCH:
Giving your bedroom a luxurious feel will really increase your ability
to relax, get comfortable, and feel sexy. The following tips will
help your bedroom appeal to the sense of touch.
Bed:
Your bed is the focal point of your bedroom. It's very important
that your bed is cozy and comfortable. Here are some great tips
to help you accomplish that:
- Buy the
biggest bed that you can afford financially and space-wise. A
big bed is comfortable and gives you a lot of room to play without
having to readjust as often or worry about falling off.
- One very
important aspect of a comfortable bed is the mattress. Get the
best mattress you can afford. Your comfort is worth it. If you
can't afford a really nice one, then consider buying a nice mattress
topper, instead.
- One of the
best things you can do for a soft, luxurious feeling is to buy
nice sheets and pillowcases. Consider only buying sheets and pillowcases
with at least a 200 thread-count. You may also want to consider
buying silk or satin sheets and pillowcases. They feel absolutely
wonderful against your skin and are extremely sexy. Some people
don't like silk or satin, though, because they slide around too
much on them. If you are in a cold climate, flannel sheets and
pillowcases can be just the thing to help you stay warm and invite
cuddling on those chilly nights.
- Consider
mixing your bedding textures. Try silk sheets with a satin pillow
and a flannel blanket. Don't keep your bed the same all the time.
Mix it up so you are always experiencing something new and exciting.
- Luv Linen
& Luv Liners: Do wet spots cause you a problem in bed? Well,
they don't have to anymore. Jenne reviewed these great products
for us awhile back. To learn more about them, see what Jenne thought
of them, and find out where you can get them, too, check this
out HERE!
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Other
ideas:
- "Keep
some massage items handy, so you can take turns massaging each
other. Items like soft, comfortable robes, massage oils, and scented
lotions might come in real handy.
- Put together
a basket of "texture toys". These are things of many
different textures that you can use to touch each other with.
Consider things in flannel, chenille, feather, fur, velvet, fleece,
wool, suede, leather, silk, satin, or cotton.
OTHER THINGS TO CONSIDER:
Seating:
- "If
you have enough free floor space, consider adding a soft, comfortable,
overstuffed chair to your bedroom that can be used for reading
or for trying out new and exciting sexual positions.
- A cushioned
bench can serve the same purpose as above, but if you can find
one that doubles as a storage trunk, then it will help eliminate
clutter, too.
- Try placing
a trunk to the end of your bed for storage purposes.
BEDROOM DON'TS:
Some things just don't promote a relaxing or romantic atmosphere
and should therefore be excluded from any sexy bedroom.
- Pictures
of Mom: Imagine being in the heat of passion and catching a glimpse
of mom over on the dresser looking at you. Need I say more?
- Pictures
of Exes: Not a good idea in the bedroom or anywhere, for that
matter.
- A Pesky Pet:
A pesky pet that is always barking or coughing up a hairball can
be a distraction when the mood gets romantic. Besides who wants
their dog watching them make love or placing their cold nose in
the most inappropriate place at the most inappropriate time. If
you have a house pet or you even sleep with one, it may be a good
idea to put them out of the room when the mood gets romantic.
- Clutter:
Nothing kills a romantic or relaxing mood faster than clutter.
So be sure you have designated storage space for papers, work
items, dirty laundry, clean laundry, keys, spare change, and other
items. If you have a small bedroom, just eliminating clutter can
make it look a lot bigger.
- Bills: Let's
keep the bills out of the bedroom. If you have a desk in your
bedroom where you normally write out the bills, then at least
keep them out of sight. Nobody wants to be reminded of the bills
that need to be paid when you are trying to relax or get romantic.
- Laundry Basket:
Stray socks in the bedroom can be a real eye-sore, but so can
a laundry hamper that has the arms of your sweater hanging out
of it. So, if you must keep your laundry basket in your bedroom,
then try to find a place for it where it will be out of sight.
- Exercise
equipment: While many of us are trying hard to stay in shape these
days, the bedroom is supposed to be relaxing and romantic. Try
placing your exercise equipment in another room.
- Television:
Some people say that a television doesn't belong in a bedroom.
I think I disagree. I agree that electronic equipment and wiring
doesn't look very romantic and it can definitely be distracting
if you are trying to get romantic with your partner and you can't
seem to pull their attention away from Bob Barker, but I also
think a television can also lend itself to a romantic evening,
as well. It's great for watching an erotic video together while
snuggling in bed and getting in the mood. How about a compromise?
Consider hiding your television and other electronic equipment
inside a large armoire, so it doesn't take away from the romantic
look of your room. And how about turning it off while you make
love, so you can both remain focused on each other instead of
the Showcase Showdown.
- Arguments:
Some experts say it's a great idea to try to keep your arguments
out of the bedroom.
- Inhibitions:
I think it's a great idea to keep those out of the bedroom, as
well.
BUILDING THE PERFECT NIGHTSTAND:
Rummaging through drawers or making excessive trips to the closet,
kitchen, or bathroom to find needed items can really break a romantic
mood. Plan ahead and keep the most common items that you use during
sex close by. Here are some items you may wish to keep handy in
your nightstand.
- Spray bottle
of water (can be used to spray your bodies to keep you cool during
a break in the action, can be used to spray in your mouth for
a refreshment, or can be used to spray onto your water-based lube
to revive it.) Or, instead of a squirt bottle, you could use a
squirt gun, to add an element of fun to your lovemaking.
- Lubrication
(Here's a great trick for you. If you've ever used a water-based
lube, you know that sometimes they can get a little sticky and
you have to add a bit of water to revive them. I take an empty
flip-top lube bottle and fill it with water. Then I tape it back
to back with my lube bottle. That way, I always have my lube and
water together.)
- Reading material:
Katie shares with us that it might be a great idea to keep a how-to
book, expand-your-horizons information, or erotic literature that
you can share as a couple.
- Condoms or
other birth control
- Incense
- Toys
- Spare batteries
- Extra candles
- Lighter/Matches/Electric
lighter (Great for lighting candles)
- Small towels
- Wet towelettes
- Tissues
- Sexy board
game
- Body Glitter
/ Body Toppings
- Massage oils
- Scented lotion
- Erotic Videos
EXTRAVAGANT IDEAS:
Here are some ideas that are a bit more extravagant in nature. If
you have the extra floor-space and the extra money, you may wish
to consider some of these ideas:
- Freestanding
fireplace: Cuddling in front of a fireplace is cozy and terrific!
Making love in front of the fireplace can be really hot, too!
Can you feel the flames warming your inner thighs as your partner
spreads your legs to give you oral sex?
- Spa/Jacuzzi:
These can be great for relaxing tired, aching muscles. They are
also great for cuddling. And if you position yourself just right,
in the flow of the jets, they can have some unbelievable self-loving
applications as well!
- Aquarium:
Aquariums are relaxing and add a touch of nature to your room.
- Fountains/Waterfalls:
Water is symbolic for renewal. A tabletop fountain or waterfall
can be a relaxing addition to your bedroom.
IDEAS FOR THE ADVENTUROUS:
The following ideas are for the adventurous types.
- Love Swing:
Love
swings add an element of weightlessness and exciting
fun to your lovemaking. Take a look for yourself HERE.
- Ceiling
Mirrors: Adding mirrors to your ceiling can turn your lovemaking
into both an exhibitionist's and voyeur's dream at the same
time.
- Bed Restraints:
If you are into (or would like to try out) light bondage, then
THIS
product will help turn your willing partner into a prisoner
of love!
- Liberator
Shapes: These make trying out new positions easy, fun, and exciting.
Read Jenne's review of this product to learn more about it,
see what she thought, and find out where to get one, yourself
HERE.
- Stripper
Stage & Pole: If you are really adventurous and you like
to give your partner strip tease dances, why not think about
putting a stripper stage and pole in your bedroom. They come
complete with many options such as lighting, fog, choice of
flooring surface material, choice of pole material, and more,
you'll find more info
HERE.
- Peek-a-boo
Screen: If you've ever wanted to give your partner a strip tease,
a peek-a-boo floor screen is the perfect prop. For a good tease,
try dancing behind it so they can only see your silhouette.
SEXY
WAYS TO INVITE YOUR LOVER TO BED:
Now that you have some ideas for creating a sexier bedroom, how
about a few sexy tips for inviting that special someone to come
to bed with you?
- Many
women enjoy being invited to bed, rather than just being expected
to go to bed with you.
- Many women
enjoy it when you lead them in to the bedroom by the hand. Offer
her your hand. Invite her to come to bed with you. When she
grasps it, kiss her hand, then hold it while you lead her into
the bedroom.
- Ladies,
if you are in the mood and you want your man to come to bed
with you, try leading him to the bedroom by the penis. He will
certainly get the message and will probably love your initiative.
CONCLUSION:
Turning your bland bedroom into a beautiful boudoir can really
heighten your ability to relax and feel romantic. Just experiment
with these ideas until you find what really works for you. When
you can walk into your bedroom and it feels like a romantic, relaxing
retreat and really has a positive effect on your mood, then you've
done a great job!
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