Written
by: morpheus@mit.edu
Eating
a woman's pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can
do for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and
of course it makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer
it to intercourse, and for most, it is the easiest way to
cum with a man. You may have the littlest dick on the planet,
but if you give great head, you will be appreciated as a
fabulous lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides, lots
of women expect it these days - you might as well know what
your doing.
First
off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship
with women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait to get their
dick into one are often reluctant to put their face "down
there". For every guy who says he loves to eat pussy,
there's another one who's squeamish. Women know this, and
it affects their ability to lay back and enjoy the experience.
There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that
her partner finds her delicious. Don't be coy; tell her.
When a guy fingers a lady and then smells, licks, sucks
the juice off his finger and sighs as if in heaven, she
_knows_ this is her lucky day.
What
if your sweet lady doesn't smell or taste very sweet? Don't
suffer. (Don't complain, either.) Take a nice hot shower
or bath together. Lather up both of your bodies and slide
them together. It's like a whole body fuck. Soap up her
vulva, washing between her outer and inner lips. Spread
her lips apart and gently wash her clitoris. Hey, don't
stop - this feels great! Run your soapy hand down the crack
of her ass, and rub a finger all around her anus. You can
stick one finger in and wash around inside too, if you anticipate
any anal play, and I suggest you do. But don't put those
soapy fingers up her vagina. Instead, rinse them off well
and stick one or two inside, making a circular motion. Think
about washing the inside of a tall glass - same thing. Now
wasn't that fun? And now you can feel free to let your tongue
wander anywhere it pleases...
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So
now what? You've found a comfy spot to play, you've been
kissing passionately, your tongues darting around each other's
mouths like playful otters. You've moved down to nibble
one of her hardening nipples and she's starting to groan,
grinding her pelvis against your stomach. STOP. I know it
was just starting to get good. But was she really groaning
and humping you, or was it your own excitement you were
detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited _before_ a guy
starts plunging his tongue into my inner recesses. Use your
judgement, and kiss, lick, and fondle your way down her
stomach, up her thighs, until she's arching up her back
trying to get you to eat her. Of course, if she really _was_
groaning and grinding, go for it...I also don't particularly
enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my inner thigh while my clit
is quivering in anticipation.
Positions
If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your
going down on her, start off with her lying on her back,
perhaps half- sitting. Lay down between her legs, with her
legs over your shoulders. She may enjoy laying or sitting
at the edge of the bed with you kneeling. She can also straddle
your face, but be prepared to get _very_ wet. There are
endless varieties of positions where you can press your
face up to her cunt, some of which strike me as more acrobatic
than erotic, but feel free to experiment. And then there's
69...
69
is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both
get to enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head, simultaneously.
The upside down positioning of a woman's pussy and your
mouth is an easy fit and there's more room for your hands.
On the negative side, it's a less than ideal position for
a woman to give head. Plus, if you need to read this article,
you may be better off concentrating your energies on pleasing
her, without too much distraction. But even for experienced
69'ers, it's easy to short-change your partner. "It
feels soooo good, I'm just gonna stop for a second and concentrate
on what you're...aaaarrrgghhh". Get the picture? Some
show of will-power is in order.
69
can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side.
The latter two are easier, though it's more restful with
both partners laying down. Some women love being licked
on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives her wild, take
the hint and find some other ways to eat her in this position.
I happen to enjoy male on top, but for many women this is
a sure choking position. If a woman can, or wants to try,
to deep-throat you, this is THE position. When her head
is thrust back you can really slide your cock all the way
down her throat. But don't forget what _you're_ supposed
to be doing!
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So
there you are staring at it - the mysterious hole from whence
you came, and into which you hope to cum again... First,
an anatomy lesson...
THE
CLITORIS
Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris,
accent on the first syllable. Most of you know it, but for
those who don't, it is THE woman's sex organ, period. It
may feel great to be fucked vaginally, anally or otherwise,
but if the stimulation is not right there, on the clitoris,
you're ignoring the place that's going to make her cum,
and presumably that's why you're reading this, right? It's
right there at the top juncture of her inner lips, a small
knob of pink flesh. This is where it's at boys, and don't
forget it. Almost any licking and sucking of the labia or
vaginal entrance is going to feel just dandy; just remember
that this is pleasurableteasing, not the main event. I can't
tell you how many guys have thrust their tongues up my vagina
thinking that this was going to make me cum. They were wrong.
Of course, with a little manual stimulation....but I'm getting
ahead of myself.
Women
feel differently about how much direct stimulation they
can take on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if
you suck hard on their exposed clits, others will shriek
in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable
to take direct stimulation of her clit; the goal is still
the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly, such
as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what is unacceptably
rough at first may be fine after she's very excited. The
fact is, most women really need a good bit of stimulation
before a targeted attack on their clitoris, but once they're
there, that's where you want to devote your attention.
The
key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she's comfortable
with it, leave the lights on and really explore. Body language
often does tell what feels best, but I promise, she will
appreciate your attentiveness if you ask outright. If she
seems shy, get her to guide your hands and mouth with her
own hand, and pay attention. If she starts bucking up against
your mouth and gasping in ragged little breaths, for God's
sake, don't use this opportunity to try something different.
Just keep doing exactly what you're doing.
THE
TONGUE
I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do
that won't feel terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be
confused and uncertain, but she's in heaven. Any licking
and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or
anal area is going to feel just great, and I'd no sooner
tell guys to "do it exactly like this" than I
would tell every chef to follow the same recipe. But for
those who are compelled to RTFM, here are a few techniques
that you might like to try:
Try
lapping her pussy from vaginal entrance up to her clit,
leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good
way to start your tonguing.
Run
your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side,
while holding the two together with your lips. Good job,
now do the other side.
Fuck
her pussy with your tongue - in and out, around and around,
etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earth-shaking;
nice.
Spread
her outer lips with your hand. Then, with your tongue pointed
and stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free to roam,
but keep coming back to her clit. This drives some women
wild, and others can't take it. Some may prefer that you
always leave your tongue soft, so when you try this, pay
attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.
The
following techniques should not be introduced until your
partner is really hot (i.e. she's no longer coherent). These
are very intense actions which may be "too much"
for some women, even when nearing orgasm.
With
her clit still exposed, give it a quick little suck - pulling
it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a
lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky.
This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you
feel like torturing her (see PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER below).
Take
her exposed clit into your mouth and gently (at first, anyway)
suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and
around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively,
and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce
an intense orgasm.
Another
choice technique involves rolling your tongue into a tube.
If you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it
- it's genetic. For those who can, this works best in an
inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube _around_
the shaft of her clitoris. Slide it up and down; in effect,
your tongue makes a tiny pussy for her clit to fuck. This
also is likely to bring her over the edge.
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Fingers
Fingers are a valuable adjunct to eating pussy. Most women
masturbate by pressing a finger or fingers over their clit,
possibly "through" the skin of their inner or
outer lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or back-and-forth
direction. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to
ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done.
You will never be a good lover until you can bring your
woman to climax with your hands. When you fuck her from
behind, or up her ass, or really in any position which doesn't
allow her to simultaneously rub her vulva against your body,
reach down or around and rub her clit. I know it's distracting,
but just do it anyway. One important point to note: make
sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing
more uncomfortable (and sometimes downright painful) than
a dry finger roughly rubbed across one's clitoris.
Of
course, that's not all you can do with your fingers. One
technique which is very exciting is to spread her lips wide
apart with one hand, and with your index finger straight
like a pencil, flick the side of it rapidly across her clit.
This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Combining
this with the addition of some tongue action elsewhere is
nothing short of bliss.
Sticking
one or more fingers inside her vagina is also wonderful.
You can simply move them in and out (this feels best with
at least two or three fingers, pushed in hard), or wriggling
them around. A particularly intense motion is to face your
hand so that you have two fingers inside her with your palm
facing the front of her body. Now move your fingers rapidly,
as if waving hello. You are aiming to stimulate a particular
part of the woman's vagina - namely the lower anterior (front)
part. When combined with sucking her clit, this is nearly
certain to bring her to a fast and intense climax.
An
excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one
(and later two) fingers inside her, with your palm cupped
over the mons area. I'm talking about that fleshy "mound"
over her pubic bone. Your finger goes in and out and the
ball of your hand is pressed hard against her vulva. You
may want to rub or even shake the entire area with your
palm.
Fingers
also do nice things to tight little butt holes, but that's
a whole other story...
Anal
Play
This stuff is purely optional. If anal play doesn't turn
you on, don't do it. If you're uncomfortable, she'll pick
up on your feelings and start wondering if it's her pussy
that's turning you off. Don't feel that you can't be a good
lover without anal play; you can.
Cleanliness
is of the essence. (remember that nice soapy shower?) Scoop
out some luscious juices (from a very wet pussy) with your
finger and rub it around her anus. (If she isn't well lubricated,
saliva works too.) If that's all you or she feels comfortable
with, fine - it still feels great. But I think most women
enjoy the feel of a finger pushed up their ass while they're
being fucked or eaten. You need to be gentle, possibly even
leaving your finger still. Try moving it in and out a little,
or around in a circle. If she starts moaning, you know you're
doing something right.
It's
really fun to feel a woman's anus rhythmically squeezing
your finger as she cums. (And it's great for her, too) You're
probably thinking about what that would feel like around
your dick, and it's something you should certainly explore.
Ass-fucking is somewhat out of the scope of this article,
but suffice to say, if she doesn't like a finger up her
butt, she sure as hell won't want your big dick up there.
Even if she does enjoy this sort of play, she may still
be somewhat apprehensive about putting something so large
up there. The keys to success are sufficient (i.e. copious
amounts of) lubrication (a water-soluble type such as K-Y,
which is safe for condoms), relaxation on her part, and
a slow,gentle, approach. She'll certainly tell you if she
wants you to thrust harder or deeper. And remember, if you
want to feel that delicious squeezing around your cock,
reach around and diddle that clit!
As
for analingus - why not? Don't feel like you HAVE to do
it to satisfy your woman. But if the idea turns you on,
great. Let your tongue rove as it pleases. It's not necessary
to actually put your tongue inside her butt to stimulate
the area. Back and forth, around and around, you get the
picture.
One
hygiene note: once that finger (or your penis) has been
inside her ass, don't even think about putting it anywhere
else. Carelessness in this regard can cause a horrendous
infection.
Menstruation
I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable
going down on a woman when she has her period. But some
are. Most women are at their horniest before and sometimes
during their period. You should definitely find a way to
make her cum when she's bleeding, be it through intercourse,
manual, or oral stimulation. If you feel comfortable going
down on her, great. It's perfectly safe. You may suggest
that she insert a tampon, and then wash up. (As you now
know, you don't need to get anywhere near her vagina to
make her cum.) Or you could lay down a few old towels, turn
out the lights, and forget about it.
Putting
It All Together
I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing
a road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here,
etc.) Much better to do the unexpected; sometimes a hungry,
aggressive approach, other times a laid-back, leisurely
one. You can even include your nose, or your chin into the
act. Start slow, that's the key, and let your lover guide
the speed of the crescendo. In all cases, start gently.
Roughness and clumsiness are big turn-offs. As she gets
more and more excited, pay more attention to her clitoris.
When she's three breathes away from cumming, moving your
mouth off or away from her clit is agony. That's fine if
you're intentionally torturing her, just understand that
this is what you are doing. The only prohibition is to be
reasonably gentle with her clit. Nibbling or biting is fine
elsewhere, but we're talking about a _sensitive_ spot.
Speaking
of prolonging the agony... I think this is great fun. Bring
your partner just to the edge of orgasm, andstop. This is
not easy unless you really know your lover well. Instead,
just have her help you. Say, "Grab my head and stop
me just before you think you're gonna cum." Then take
your sweet time. Blow on her clit, take it into your mouth
just briefly, flick it just the very slightest bit. You
will have this woman squirming and moaning like she's dying.
Finger her deeply, enjoy the ecstasy you are imparting,
and finally, have pity. Let the poor woman cum.
UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!
(or, I'M COMING!!!)
Okay,
she's practically suffocating you, she's pressed so hard
against your face; she's screaming and bucking up in the
air; you feel her pussy contracting wildly - how long should
you keep it up?? The simple answer is, until she makes you
stop. Some women may stop you after five seconds from the
start of their climax, others may be able to roll right
into another orgasm if you keep going. Do come up for air,
but remember, her excitement does not drop off as sharply
as yours does. Play it safe by continuing the stimulation.
How
many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content
to have one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like
to cum again, but need about five minutes to recoup. Many
women are so sensitive right after they cum that they may
push your head violently away. This doesn't necessarily
mean they've had enough, only that you need to stop for
a few minutes. In fact most women, given a short rest between,
are capable of cumming again and again. A smaller percentage
of women are able to cum repeatedly with continued stimulation.
This is the much-touted multiple-orgasm that is experienced
by a minority of women. I know this makes it difficult to
know when enough is enough, but there's a simple answer:
ask her.
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GODI'MSOEXCITEDITFEELSGREATBUTIJUSTCAN'TCOME
It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment,
anxiety, or just an inability to "let go". What
do you do about it? The first question is, can she easily
bring herself to a climax in the privacy of her own home.
If the answer is no - then she needs to do some homework.
There are two books on the subject that I know of: "For
Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by Lonnie
Barbach, and "Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving"
by Betty Dodson; pick up one. Then tell her to read it,
study it, and practice, practice, practice!
Now
if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point
blank: "Is there something different I can do?"
Many women are shy about criticizing their lovers, but if
asked outright will surprise you with a very specific answer.
It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a little to
right please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster.
Ah... perfect.
But
suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing everything
right but she just can't cum. There are two probable causes:
self- consciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who
can't help watching themselves, the best approach is to
eliminate anything that focuses her attention on what the
two of you are doing. This is a "be here now"
kind of thing - definitely not an introspective activity.
Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn
them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share a glass
of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely
not help). Have her lay on her back, or propped up comfortably
with some pillows. This is not the time for her to sit on
your face, or the edge of the bed, or standing up against
a wall. Arrange a time when you can devote a long period
to eating her pussy, and then just keep it up. Forget everything
I said about asking her questions - just close your eyes
and get into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting
exercise, but she will be extravagantly thankful for your
efforts. It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get
accustomed to masturbating together. Gradually begin to
add your stimulation to her own, right before she's about
to cum anyway. Over time, you can take over completely.
For
women who themselves feel that their cunts are dirty or
distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful, but
the underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed
at how many women are ambivalent about their own genitals.
They don't love "that part" of their body, and
they can't believe that you would either. Yes, it is important
to be clean. But clean means a daily shower which includes
washing the vulva. It doesn't mean vainly attempting to
remove every trace of smell or taste. The natural fragrance
and secretions of a healthy woman are beautiful and erotic.
Hopefully you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this
attitude). When she learns to love her pussy, she will be
infinitely more comfortable with your loving it too.
A
quick note:
I
wrote the first version of this article in early 1994 in
response to a request on alt.sex.wizards. Although I originally
meant it to be short, when I stopped to proof-read, I found
that I had written 4 pages. I have since received about
120 enthusiastic (and 3 non-enthusiastic) responses about
the article, therefore I have slightly modified (spell checked
and everything) it and I'm posting it again on alt.sex.wizards
and alt.sex. for the benefit of those who missed it the
first time, freshmen, and all the hoards of commercial net
users. Hope you enjoy!
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Oral
Sex Techniques - Female
Taste
In my experience, one of the main reasons that partners
avoid cunnilingus is due to a perceived or even experienced
poor taste. While it is true that women run the range from
pleasant (tasty!) to sour or uric tasting, there are easy
steps to ensure that your partner will be tasting her sweetest.
First
and most obviously, a good vigorous shower will do much
to neutralize the taste of your partner. In fact, oral sex
in the shower, while not a favorite method of mine, has
a completely neutral taste if you stick to the upper regions
of your partner's sex. If your partner has not showered
recently, or has physically exerted herself recently, her
taste will be much stronger. This, however, can be a good
thing!
Secondly,
foreplay will improve upon both the taste and the experience
in general if your can get her juices flowing. I have never
found an extremely aroused, wet woman to taste unpleasant.
Quite the contrary!
Finally,
there's the use of flavorings. There are many flavored oils
and body lotions available through "marital aid"
catalogs as well as from local novelty shops or condom shops.
Also recommended to me: popsicles, jello powder, honey,
and whipped cream. (A particular favorite flavoring of mine
is Karma Sutra Honey Dust.)
Foreplay
Do it! Take your time! Have fun! Experiment! A common male
misunderstanding is that all females are aroused mostly
through physical contact. Not true. Women can be aroused
greatly simply because they find their partner sexy. Tension
is a wonderful tool, use it. If you can build tension to
the point where the barest touch sends electric shivers
through both of you, you can't lose! Similarly, even the
best love techniques will not turn on a woman who isn't
in the mood. (If you can get her in the mood, well then
you're talking.)
Joe
Slobodnik's article (13590) on methods of arousal was a
bit technical, but he hit on some very important points.
Take your time, explore your partner (there's a lot more
there than nipples and a clitoris!), build tension, have
fun.
Positions
There are two basic positions that I have found very versatile
and successful. For a very comfortable session, have her
lie on her back with legs spread and knees bent slightly.
Lie on your stomach between her legs, put your right arm
under her left leg and your left arm under her right - somewhat
of an intimate hug. Now you should find your head situated
conveniently and comfortably near the center of your attention.
Less
comfortable, but a bit wilder is the following. Lie on your
back, prop a couple of pillows (or fold one over) under
your head. Have your partner kneel facing you with one knee
on each side of your head, above your shoulders. The sexy
part of this position (IMHO) is that your partner can look
down at you and watch you eating her out. (Yum) Versatility
and comfort are reduced for the giver, so I only occasionally
partake in this position.
These
are by no means the only positions. Again, experiment, have
fun. If you can find a bed where your partner can lie down
with her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the
floor, you're in luck. Now you can have her sit just at
the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty of access
while you kneel/sit in front of her sex. Also recommended
to me are siting besides your partner and kissing her in
this manner. While I've found that this changes the angle
of approach (adding variation) and allows more digital stimulation
(that's fingers, Holmes), it limits oral attention to the
upper and clitoral area of your partner's sex.
An
additional recommendation follows: Have her lie with her
head dangling off the edge of the bed. The additional rush
of blood to the head will give a different (more intense?)
feeling during orgasm. Warning, unconsciousness is a possibility!
(Opinions vary on whether this improves orgasm.)
Geography
Different woman are very different in some respects of their
genitalia, but the major parts are the same. A woman's sex
from the oral sex point of view consists of two sets of
lips (outer and inner) with endpoints just below the vaginal
opening and some variable distance above the clitoris; the
vaginal opening (at the lower end of her anatomy, just above
where the two sets of lips meet), a smooth section of skin
between the vaginal opening and the clitoris, and the clitoris
and its surrounding folds.
If
you get the chance, explore your partner in a location with
decent lighting. Use one hand to spread her sex, then explore
her. Find out what's where and what's what. Like I said
earlier, women are different. Especially the location and
shape of the clitoris. It can be buried, protruding, surrounded
by many folds of flesh, or hanging out it the open. The
best method I have found for finding your partner's clitoris
(If all else fails, ask!), is to wet a finger and place
it just over her vaginal opening, inside of her inner lips.
Now run your finger up until you feel a slight bump. Now
gently circle with your finger, if she gasps, that's it,
if not move farther up and repeat as necessary.
Ok,
Enough Of The Details, Now The Nitty-Gritty
So your partner is showered, excited and feeling sexy.
It's the big moment, what to do? Don't simply dive in. Take
your time, excite her.
*****
From
"The Meaning of Life" by Monty Python:
Headmaster:
Name two ways of getting them flowing, Watson.
Watson: Rubbing the clitoris, sir.
Headmaster: What's wrong with a kiss, boy? Hm? Why not start
her off with a nice kiss? You don't have to go leaping straight
for the clitoris like a bull at a gate. Give her a kiss,
boy.
Wymer: Suck the nipple, sir.
Headmaster: Good. Good. Good, well done, Wymer.
Duckworth: Stroking the thighs, sir.
Headmaster: Yes, I suppose so.
Another: Bite the neck.
Headmaster: Good. Nibbling the ear. Kneading the buttocks,
and so on and so forth. So we have all these possibilities
before we stampede towards the clitoris, Watson.
Watson: Yes sir. Sorry sir.
*****
In
my opinion, I can usually tell how good my partner is at
oral sex by how she "goes down" on me. By "going
down" I mean the process by which she goes from kissing
my lips to sucking oh-so-wonderfully on my sex.
What's
the belly button for?
Putting your gum in on the way down!
Depending
on your partner, different methods of going down will work
more effectively. If you've gotten to this point with your
partner, you should have a fair idea of what she likes.
Take advantage of that knowledge. One thing that I highly
recommend however, is a sexy look. Sexy looks can make all
the difference, and the best place to throw one in is as
you're licking, sucking and kissing your way down her stomach.
Take time to stop, look up and smile devilishly. Letting
her know that you really want to do this and aren't just
doing it because you're hoping for reciprocation is a great
turn-on.
Unbutton
your partners jeans, pull the tabs back and kiss her newly
exposed flesh. Unzip her pants, pull the tabs back as far
as they can go and place light, tender kisses on her abdomen
and around the top of her panties. Watch it, some women
are very ticklish here!
(Note
the above doesn't work so well if she doesn't have jeans
on but you're all smart enough to figure it out...)
Once
you've removed everything but her panties, stop. You have
a unique opportunity for further arousal. Kiss her legs
and inner thighs with gentle kisses. Work your way up each
leg and make a point of stopping at the line of her underwear.
Kiss again along the top of her underwear, and along the
other two borders.
Now
move to her cotton (silk? lace? latex?) covered sex. Plant
firm, dry kisses through her underwear on her sex, low and
right around the vaginal entrance works best for me. If
your partner is really excited, often her underwear will
be damp and will smell (pleasantly) of her sex.
Removing
the underwear is again a matter of choice. You know your
partner best, I prefer either gently sliding it all the
way off with my fingers, or pulling it part way down with
my teeth first.
Direct
Kissing:
It is not unusual for your partner's lips to be closed
together. A very excited woman's lips may be slightly spread
already ("pouting"). Again, building tension can
be accomplished by light kisses on either side of her sex
as well as light blowing. (Do not inflate your partner!
This can be very dangerous!! - You can rupture internal
organs this way.) Spreading her lips can be accomplished
by placing your tongue first at the base of her sex, and
then firmly running your tongue all the way up. Continue
with a few long licks from the base of her sex all the way
to the top past her clitoris. Vary the firmness of your
tongue from hard and pointed to broad and soft.
The
Big "O"
The best and most proven method of making your partner cum
through oral sex is by repeated, rhythmic stroking of her
clitoris with your tongue. The tongue is uniquely suited
for this purpose because of it's texture, versatility, and
pliability. It is difficult (and tiring) to apply too much
pressure to your partner's clitoris with your tongue. Some
women are much more sensitive than others however. Be receptive
to any sharp gasps, you could be being too forceful. If
this is the case, move away from direct contact of the clitoris
or adopt a gentler technique.
Repeated,
rhythmic stroking can be accomplished in a variety of ways.
I prefer either rapid, repeated vertical licks with a firm,
pointed tongue, or planting your tongue firmly and stiffly
against your partner's clitoris and vigorously shaking your
head back and forth. (Tiring, maybe. But it's worth it!)
If you are having trouble finding the correct angle or method
for rhythmically lingually caressing her clitoris, or if
you want to try something fun and new:
Tongue
the ABC's. No seriously! This is a great oral exercise on
any part of the body. Tongue the ABC's starting with lower
case, and moving though upper case. (Heck, you could do
the whole ANSI ASCII set if you'd like!) Be especially perceptive
while you do this, vary your speed and watch for sharp intakes
of breath - chances are you've hit the right angle. The
ABC's give a large variety of different strokes, so come
back to this exercise as often as you'd like.
A
general rule of thumb (tongue?) is to start slowly and pick
up the pace as you go along. This is definitely a general
rule though, feel free to break it by varying your rhythm,
both slowly and predictably as well as quickly and startlingly.
Other
Fun Things To Do
Lick between the inner and outer lips; penetrate the vagina
deeply (a much stronger, iron-like taste here); "tease"
the entrance to her vagina with rapid pokes of your tongue
at varying depths; don't forget your hands, often a woman
will feel a need or ache for something inside of her while
very aroused, oblige her with a finger or two. Both kissing
and manually manipulating your partner is tough, anyone
with successful methods is welcome to pipe in.
Talk
to your partner, ask her what she likes. Experiment (if
you can) with many different partners. What excites one
woman a lot may not excite another as much, but may still
be well worth trying. On the other hand, you may not notice
a subtle pleasurable technique on one woman that can be
easily learned on another. The better you know your partner,
the more effectively you can please her. Have fun!
A
Final Note
I tried to be a lot less pretentious than the male version
of this article for a few reasons. The major one is that
women are very different, the above suggestions may work
wonderfully with one woman and so-so with another. Some
women simply aren't responsive to oral sex due to strong
moral constraints. Also, I am not an expert. Though I love
oral sex and have had the joy of pleasuring many women,
I am still young and have a lot to learn. (I hope!)
So
feel free to comment on what you've read (men and women)
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you found this helpful and enjoy!
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