Written By: Michael

Many men are reluctant to give cunnilingus, don’t like to do it, don’t know how to do it, don’t do it often enough, or do don’t it long enough when they do. Of the guys that do give cunnilingus, not all of them know how to do it well, not all of them know how to set their lady at ease so she enjoys the experience to the fullest, and not all of them understand the other aspects of cunnilingus that can make it so great. This article will give you a deeper understanding of cunnilingus and help you and your lady have a better experience by offering an advanced perspective on cunnilingus and by covering a few cunnilingus topics that aren’t often discussed. This will help you take your cunnilingus to a new level.

This is not a Cunnilingus 101 article. There are plenty of those available, already. Instead, this article deals with more advanced issues that you don’t often see discussed in basic cunnilingus how-to guides. Let’s talk about why many men are reluctant to give oral sex, let’s discuss reasons that ladies are reluctant to receive oral sex, let’s discover some ways we can put our ladies at ease during cunnilingus, let’s explore a new perspective of oral sex, and then let’s hit on several more aspects of cunnilingus that are sure to help you improve. Finally let’s take a look at some of my favorite cunnilingus secrets, tips, tricks, and techniques. Let’s get started, shall we?

RELUCTANCE TO GIVING CUNNILINGUS
Percentage of men who give oral sex in their lifetime: 77%

That leaves 23% of us who don’t/won’t give oral sex to our ladies - ever. So, why do some men absolutely love giving cunnilingus while others don’t want any part of it? Why are they so reluctant?

There could be many reasons for not wanting to give cunnilingus:
· Some men may avoid giving cunnilingus because they don’t know what to do. They don’t want to appear inexperienced or inept. Many guys have never seen a vulva up close and personal. It’s a bit of a mystery to some of us and we’d rather avoid the situation than to do a “bad” job, let it be known that we are not sure of what we are doing, or let it be known that we are unfamiliar with the various body parts involved.
· Some may not be comfortable with the idea because of their upbringing or because of family/religious/social influences and values.
· Some men may find the natural scent of a vulva unpleasant.
· Some men may find the natural taste of a vulva unpleasant.
· Some men may find the natural look of a vulva unattractive.
· Some men may fear getting a pubic hair caught in their mouth or throat.
· Some men may feel subservient giving cunnilingus, and they prefer to feel dominant, instead.
· But, by far, the most common reason men give for not wanting to give cunnilingus is concern over genital hygiene. There is no need for this concern, however, as the vagina is a self-cleansing system. It’s more sanitary than many other parts of the body, including the mouth, which has many more germs than the vagina. So, if you are truly concerned about germs and hygiene, then just skip the kissing and go right to the cunnilingus! ;)

RELUCTANCE TO RECEIVING CUNNILINGUS
Percentage of women who receive oral sex in their lifetime: 73%

That leaves 27% of women who never receive oral sex, because they either choose not to, or their partner won’t give it to them. Of the ladies who do receive oral sex, many of them are at least a bit reluctant to receive it. Have you ever wondered why?

Many women are uncomfortable with the idea of receiving oral sex. For every guy who loves to give cunnilingus, there's another who is turned off by it, and women are all too aware of this. It may affect their ability to lay back, relax, let go, and fully enjoy the experience. Think about it. It takes a lot of trust for a lady to allow someone to give her cunnilingus. There she lies, very naked, very vulnerable, on display, with her legs spread wide open while you are moving in on her most intimate parts. She may be worried and anxious about the way she looks, the way she smells, or the way she tastes. She also may be worried about her secretions or the fact that she might take too long to orgasm. It’s hard to surrender to these feelings. She is allowing you to explore an intimate part of her that she herself may find unfamiliar and mysterious. 1/3 of American women even think their vulvas are unattractive.

Some women are very hung up on oral sex and are determined to believe that no matter how much you say otherwise, it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. And this says nothing about the family, religious, and social pressures that some people are subjected to about what is ok to do in the bedroom and what isn’t. If you add all this up, and throw in the douche commercials on television that make you think your vulva should smell like a spring breeze, it’s easy to see where female reluctance comes from when it comes to cunnilingus. If your lady is busy thinking about these things, then she isn’t going to be able to relax and be fully in the moment. Great sex is all about surrendering and letting go. For the best experience, you have to surrender to the sensations, surrender to your pleasure, and surrender to your partner. Letting go is scary, but what makes it so scary also makes it so great.

SETTING HER AT EASE
So, how do we ease her concerns and begin to overcome her reluctance to receiving cunnilingus?

In his book, ‘She Comes First’, Dr. Ian Kerner says, “Like a guest arriving at a much-anticipated dinner party, let your hostess know how excited you are to be there, how beautiful she looks, and how much you’re looking forward to the meal ahead. Put her at ease.” I think that’s terrific advice and I couldn’t have said it better if I had tried.

If you are as big a fan of cunnilingus as I am, you'll certainly want to take Dr. Kerner's advice and put your lady at ease. Here are a few ways to do that. Here are the 3 assurances of cunnilingus.

1) Compliment your lady on the way she looks, smells, and tastes. This will go a long way to ease her concerns. She looks beautiful! She smells wonderful! She tastes delightful!

2) There’s no hurry. She has all the time she needs. She can relax and take her time and you’ll be enjoying every minute of it. One of the biggest anxieties women face while receiving oral sex is the fear that they are taking too long.

3) Giving her oral sex turns you on. You enjoy doing it as much as she enjoys receiving it.

Be sure to communicate these 3 things physically, as well as verbally. A little noise on your part will go a long way, too. Get into it and get excited about it. Moan when you lick her. Lick your fingers after they’ve been inside her. Comment on how wonderful they taste. Let her hear that you are enjoying what you are doing. There may be nothing more erotic and exhilarating to your lady than to find out that you think she’s delicious. When you are really enjoying yourself – when you are getting pleasure, as well as giving it from cunnilingus - when you lick her, suck her, and taste her, and you truly enjoy it, she’ll know that you are a man who truly loves giving cunnilingus and giving her pleasure and not someone who is just reluctantly going through the motions to make her happy, and this may be just what she needs to fully relax and take her pleasure to the next level.

A NEW PERSPECTIVE
Most people think of oral sex as a part of foreplay - just something you do for a few minutes before you get to the real sex.

Cunnilingus has long been considered just an optional part of foreplay. Dr. Kerner reminds us that instead of foreplay, it’s coreplay. It’s simply the best way to lead most women through the orgasmic process.
Cunnilingus isn’t inferior to intercourse. If anything, it’s superior because in many cases it’s the best chance you have to bring a woman to orgasm.

In the book, ‘Sex: A Man’s Guide’, the authors cite a study of 98 wives in happy, stable marriages in which 82% reported cunnilingus as being very satisfying. The next highest rated activity, intercourse, was reported as very satisfying by only 68% of the women. They also reported that they reach orgasm only 25% of the time through intercourse, while they reach orgasm 81% of the time through cunnilingus.

Try having sessions where you focus only on oral sex. Forget the intercourse, sometimes. This forces you to concentrate on oral sex and makes you think of it as a pleasurable and complete activity in itself. It doesn’t always need to be accompanied by intercourse. When you have several sessions where you focus only on oral sex, you’ll get inventive with new and exciting ways to dazzle each other through oral sex alone.

THE TEASE
When it comes to arousal, often men are like microwaves and women are like slow cookers. Don’t move right in on her vulva. Allow her arousal, pleasure, and desire to “cook slowly”. A good tease can amplify her pleasure and her orgasm many times over, so take your time and tease her well. Here are some ideas for you:

· Run your fingers through her pubic hair.
· Engage in lots of teasing, taunting, and tantalizing. Don’t touch her vulva right away. Instead, move your fingers all around her vulva, but don’t touch it just yet. The nerve endings that you touch all around, but teasingly ignore will become many times more sensitive in anticipation of your touch.
· Start by licking/kissing the backs of her knees. Now, lick/kiss up her legs, alternating back and forth, from left leg to right leg, moving closer and closer with each kiss until you get to the vulva, which should be like a bubbling volcano, by now. This creates a lot of anticipation and desire.
· Wait until she’s on the brink of madness and doesn’t think you’ll ever start licking her. Then give it to her.
· Sometimes when I’m teasing, I like to wait until she begs to be licked. I’ll just keep teasing until her body aches, she can’t stand it anymore, and she insists that I lick her right now!
· If you are licking her with rhythmic strokes, try skipping a stroke. For instance: 1,2,3,4. 1,2,skip,4. This could wreck a building orgasm in some women, but we aren’t trying to have orgasms yet. Right now we are still teasing.
· If you are giving vertical strokes with your tongue, throw in a teasing horizontal one, or vice versa. For instance: HHHH. HHVH. HHVH. HHVH. This could wreck a building orgasm in some women, but we aren’t trying to have orgasms yet. Again, we are still teasing.
· If you sense that she is getting close to orgasm, tell her she can’t have it yet and stop the stimulation for a few seconds.
· Breathe warm breaths on her vulva.
· Blow lightly on her wet clitoris.
· Make and break contact between the tongue and vulva often. This helps create the sexual arousal that will build to orgasm. Again, this is not something you want to do when an orgasm is pending. We are still only teasing at this point.
· As she nears orgasm, instead of chasing after the orgasm, slow down and let the orgasm come to you.
· Practice the Bullseye Technique. Now, normally, you want to hit the bullseye, right? Isn't that how it works? Well, not with this technique. You want to intentionally work around the bullseye for this one. What is the bullseye? Her clitoris! So for this technique, start with your tongue anywhere on her body. I like starting with the legs. Lick and kiss up her legs to her inner thigh. Kiss around her inner thighs. Then move closer and closer to her vulva. Lick and kiss just outside her outer lips. Do this for a bit. Next move to the outer lips and suck and kiss them. Now move to the inner lips and so on. The idea is to really tease the clitoris by working all around it and moving closer and closer to it. By the time you actually get there she will be *very* ready for you. You could also add an extra teasing element to this one, if you wish. Try licking her clit for 1 second every once in a while before you actually get to the bullseye. In other words, if you are working the inner thigh area, take a 1 second break to lick her clit. Then go right back to the inner thigh. Talk about a tease! Please note that she may physically grab your head in her hands and move it right to her clitoris even before you get there yourself. Then, you can really tease her by not going to the clit, or you can give in and go for it then. It's important to note that if she actually moves you there, she is *READY* for you right now! Any further teasing could be agony. Agony is ok, if that's what you are going for - just know that it is indeed agony at that point. My philosophy on the matter is: If she indicates that she wants it right now, I'm going to give her what she wants! This technique teaches us that like the ripples that circle out when you throw a rock into a pond, zones of sensitivity radiate outward from a woman’s hot spots.

THE FIRST TASTE
Dr. Kerner reminds us to “approach cunnilingus as you would savor a fine bottle of wine that you have been saving for a special occasion. You don’t just chug it down. Instead, let it breathe, take the time to enjoy its bouquet, admire its color, relish its taste. Take in the full experience.”

I like to make my first lick a long, slow, ice-cream lick from the bottom to the top of her vulva. Lick her vulva with a slow, upward, elongated lick like you would lick an ice cream cone. Make your tongue as wide as possible and lick from the bottom to the top with a long, broad stroke. Depending on how adventurous you are, you can start your stroke at either the bottom of her vaginal lips, below her vaginal opening at the perineum (the perineum is the area between her vaginal opening and her anus), or just below her anus. Now lick from your starting point, and go all the way up the whole vulva. If you choose to include the anus, then start your stroke just below her anus with the tip of your tongue. When you get to the perineum, start to widen your tongue and when you get to her vulva, your tongue should be almost flat and cover as much of her vulva as possible. Don’t you wish Baskin Robbins served that flavor? Try to take 10 seconds to complete this lick. It should feel like heaven if you’ve done a great job of teasing her.

DISCONNECT
Even if you are giving your lady fantastic oral sex, she still may not enjoy it as fully as she could if you make the mistake of making her feel isolated and disconnected. A sense of disconnect (or feeling lonely) during cunnilingus is a fairly common complaint from women. She may love what you are doing to her down there, but may feel a bit disconnected from you. Even though you are focused on her vulva, keep in mind that there’s a whole woman up there. You can stay connected by:

· Straddling one of her legs during cunnilingus.
· Stroking her body with your free hand.
· Interlocking your fingers with hers. This is a good way to maintain that closeness with her and let her know that you love her and are there for her.
· If you stay down there with your head buried between her legs, she may want to yell down to you to make sure you are still alive and ok. Instead of that, give her a 3 minute sampling of your finest work, then pay a 30 second visit upstairs for quality control. Ask her if she is enjoying herself. Reassure her that you are enjoying yourself. Ask her if there is anything she likes that you are doing or not doing. Then go back to work, but don’t forget to check in with her from time to time to reestablish that connection, if that works for her. Some women won’t like you to interrupt the action by checking in with them. Some women say this ruins the mood or “throws them off”. So, be sure to discuss this with your lady to get her input. Do what will work best for her.

COMMON MISTAKES
What mistakes are YOU making between her legs that could be holding her back? Do you ask for constructive criticism from your lady? Unfortunately, not many of us do. While feedback in the bedroom is very important, sometimes when it comes to constructive criticism, we hold back asking for fear of crushing our delicate ego. Since we don’t often get this kind of information from our partners, I have collected the constructive criticism for you. One way we can take a step closer to being a better lover is to examine the mistakes that we, and others like us, make in the bedroom. By doing this one simple task, we can make note of the most common mistakes people are making and be sure to avoid doing the same thing ourselves in the future. See if you may be making some of the same mistakes. And remember that everyone is different. These mistakes are listed here because they are the most common ones, but keep in mind that your partner may not necessarily consider every one of them a mistake. Your best bet is to read through this list together and have a frank discussion about them.

· Too rough.
· Too impatient.
· Too fast.
· Off target (doesn’t target the clitoris).
· Lacks a steady rhythm.
· Changes rhythm at the wrong time.
· Bad technique. Don’t emulate the exaggerated cunnilingus techniques that you see in porn flicks, especially the technique where the guy sticks out his tongue, makes it very rigid, and then shakes his whole head from side to side furiously, instead of licking her and sucking on her. This doesn’t normally work well and it looks pretty silly, also.
· Don’t act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk, keeping your distance and trying to accomplish the whole task using only tongue flicks. Get your whole mouth down there.
· “He sprints toward the finish line rather than pacing himself for a marathon.”

MULTIPLE O’S
Approximately 40% of women have reported having multiple orgasms, though only around 10-15% of women (regardless of age) experience them on a regular and consistent basis.

Many experts believe that all women are capable of multiple orgasms, though. You just have to unlock the code, so to speak.

Masters and Johnson are among those that believe all women are capable of multiple orgasms. They claimed that even women who are described as "frigid" by the strictest of standards are capable of intense multiple orgasms. They also said that the human female is capable of having 20-50 consecutive orgasms (or even more). "She will stop only when totally exhausted."

In their book, 'The Multi-Orgasmic Couple', Mantak and Maneewan Chia also agree that, "...all women have the capacity to have multiple orgasms..."

Many women who didn't think that they could have multiple orgasms have discovered that they could as they have had new sexual experiences or new partners and have become more sexually adventurous or sexually experienced.

Many of the women who have multiple orgasms regularly seem to share many of the following characteristics:

· They grew up masturbating, therefore they have a lot of experience having orgasms. Their bodies have become accustomed to having them.
· They are very familiar with their bodies, their sexual response, and their pleasure spots.
· They engage in a variety of sexual activity and are sexually open and adventurous.
· They are less restricted by societal norms and have no major hangups about sex.
· They seem to really enjoy sex.
· They stay mentally stimulated as well as physically stimulated.
· They ask for what they want.
· They have toned PC muscles.
· A study conducted at the University of Wisconsin found that multi-orgasmic women were also more likely to have partners who delayed their orgasms until after she had hers first.

Here's a tip that may help some women experience multiple orgasms:
One way to help encourage multiple orgasms is to do what I call progressive stimulation. On your first orgasm, rub your clitoris really slow and easy. For the second, add more stimulation, like a dildo in the vagina, faster rubbing on the clitoris, or a vibrator on the clitoris. You may find that increasing the stimulation after the first orgasm will help you get there.

So, how exactly do you define a multiple orgasm? In his book, 'Sex Over 50', Dr. Joel Block describes 3 different types of multiple orgasms:

Compound Singles - Each orgasm is distinct and separated by at least a partial return to the resolution phase.

Sequential Multiples - Orgasms occur just minutes apart with minimal reduction in arousal between them. An example of this type of multiple is if you have a clitoral orgasm from oral sex followed by a vaginal penetration orgasm from intercourse, all in the same session.

Serial Multiples - Several orgasms separated by mere seconds or minutes (at most) with no reduction of arousal. Some ladies have this type of multiple as one long orgasm with spasms of varying intensity and degree.

HANDS ON EXPERIENCE
So, what do you do with your hands while you are giving her cunnilingus? There are many options. Try the following:

Use your hands to:
· Lift her butt
· Play with her breasts
· Caress her body
· Vaginal penetration
· G-Spot stimulation
· Anal penetration
· Hold her holds
· Spread her labia
· Slide her clitoral hood back.
· Hold her legs up and open
· Use your hands on her legs to rock her back and forth across your tongue
· Have her suck your finger
· Scratch her thighs
· Run fingers through her pubic hair

TIRED TONGUE
A tired/aching tongue can take the fun right out of giving cunnilingus. If your tongue tends to get tired during the act, try one or more of the following:

· If your tongue gets tired, switch to your fingers to maintain your stimulation. Try to match the rhythm, pressure, and speed.
· If she’s right on the verge of orgasm, then dig deep, find a second wind, and don’t change a thing.
· Lifesaver Tongue Stamina Tip: This is a great exercise to gain tongue endurance for oral sex. Hold a Lifesaver at the front of your mouth in the upright position, either between your lips and gum or just inside your teeth. Now, using tiny tongue motions, "eat" or dissolve the lifesaver from the inside out. Like great oral sex, this takes time, patience, and a strong, nimble tongue.
· Tired Tongue Tip: If your tongue gets tired while pleasuring her, just curl it up against the outside of your upper lip. Now you can still pleasure her with the exposed backside of your tongue while your tongue rests and still not break the sensation of softness and heat that she is enjoying. By the time you need to do this, there should be enough lubrication from her to avoid any dryness.
· Tung-Fu Technique: This is an ancient Chinese Taoist secret exercise to strengthen the tongue for oral sex. Hang an orange on a string. Use martial arts on it with your tongue. Jab it. Move it from side to side. Lift it up. After a few weeks, graduate to a grapefruit.
· Tongue Stamina Exercise Technique: To be able to perform oral sex for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your tongue. Here is one such exercise to prime your tongue for longer oral sex action: Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible. Once you are in this position, begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, up and down, and left and right.

TIRED LEGS
If your lady’s legs tend to get tired of being suspended in the air during long cunnilingus sessions, try one or more of the following:

· Use your hands to hold her legs.
· Leg Raising Tip: Many women like to keep their legs raised up in the air while you perform oral sex on them, but some find it tiring after awhile. Here is a tip to help her relax and be more comfortable with her legs raised. Take a long, wide piece of fabric. You will need to customize the length once you see how to do it. Tie a loop in each end of the fabric. Place her left foot in one loop and her right foot in the other loop. Now place the middle of the fabric just behind her neck. This will help hold her legs comfortably in the air while giving you easy access for oral sex at the same time.

SMASHED HEAD
Have you ever been between your lady’s legs giving her some of your finest work only to have her smash your head in between her thighs as she orgasms? If so, you may wish to purchase a thigh separator bar. This is a metal bar that attaches to a cuff around each thigh that prevents the thighs from closing. Take a look HERE.

WHISKERS
Unruly whiskers can ruin an otherwise terrific cunnilingus session. What lady wants whisker burns on her most intimate areas? Keep the following in mind:

· Whisker Test Tip: A great way to test your facial hair to see if it may be too rough on your lady while you give her oral sex is to rub your moustache, beard, chin, or other suspect part against the back of your hand or the inside of your wrist. If it’s uncomfortable to you, it will likely be uncomfortable to her.
· Whisker Burn Tip: Help prevent whisker burn on your lady’s most delicate parts while you are giving her oral sex. One way to do this is to be freshly shaven before your intimate encounter.
· Another Whisker Burn Tip: Another way to lessen the abrasion to your lady’s intimate parts caused by your facial hair is to use hair conditioner on your beard and mustache or goatee. This will make your hair silky soft and can actually be an asset during your oral lovemaking rather than a liability.
· Yet Another Whisker Burn Tip: Still another way to prevent whisker burn to her inner thighs is to wrap them with plastic wrap using a little lubrication between her thigh and the wrap.
· Nice Whisker Tip: Above, we have gone over some ways to avoid whisker burn during oral lovemaking. I should point out, though, that sometimes, a focused intentional use of your facial hair on certain parts of your lady’s body can be a wonderful thing.

SECRETS
Here are some of my favorite cunnilingus secrets. I hope you enjoy them:

· Clitoral Flanking Tip: Did you know that sometimes women are more sensitive on one side of their clitoris than the other? Well, now you do. Let’s find out if this holds true for your lady, and if so, which side is her more sensitive side. When your lady is ready for clitoral stimulation, lick up and down the left side of the clitoris. Do this for 30 seconds or so and then lick up and down the right side. Judging from her reaction, you should be able to determine which side, if any, is more sensitive. Once you find out, though, be sure not to neglect the less sensitive side.
· Upper left quadrant tip: Some experts claim that the upper left quadrant of the clitoris may be more sensitive in some women. That’s the upper left quadrant from her perspective. That would be the upper right quadrant from your perspective. See it it’s true for your lady.
· Something Inside Tip: Many women claim that their orgasms are more intense and pleasurable if there is something inside their vagina when they cum to give them a sense of vaginal fullness. Keep this in mind while giving her oral sex.
· Orgasmic Contraction Rate Tip: Some people feel that since the rhythmic orgasmic contraction rate for women (and men, too) is .8 seconds, the rhythm of cunnilingus is best paced to this beat – one tongue stroke every .8 seconds. Try it! See if they are right.

MY FAVORITE TIPS
Here are some of my favorite cunnilingus tips. Try them out:

· Use a finger shadow. Let your index finger trail your tongue.
· Lick her through her panties. Then pull them to the side and lick her wet vulva.
· If you're worried about stray pubic hairs in your mouth, do a stroking move with your hand through her pubic hair. It is not only a caressing move, but you are also grooming her and removing loose hairs.
· 74 percent of women reported an increase in sexual desire just before or during their period.
· When you give oral sex to your lover, really get into it. Don’t give oral sex just to give pleasure. Do it to also get pleasure. This is a bigger secret than it may seem, at first.
· A lot of women love to read erotic novels. If your lady is one of them, try giving her oral sex as she reads the novel out loud.
· Put a pillow under her butt to give you a better angle.
· Oral Wake-Up Idea: This is a very simple idea. You don't even need any props. All you do is wake up your lady by giving her oral sex. What a way to wake up, huh?
· Let Her Watch Idea: If you think she would like to watch you perform oral sex on her, give her a hand mirror before you start for a up-close, breathtaking view of the action.
· Remain focused on her reactions while you are giving her cunnilingus. Stay tuned in to the nuances of her reactions to what you are doing. Don’t let the orgasmic process slip away from you. Each moment builds upon the last to create a seamless experience.

MY FAVORITE TECHNIQUES

· The Ultimate Female Orgasm Technique: This technique incorporates two completely different types of orgasms. It is not generally known, but there are several types of female orgasms that are completely different from each other in that they originate from different sources, are supplied sensation by different nerves, and have different levels of intensity, depth, and duration. The two orgasm types featured in this technique are the G-Spot orgasm and the clitoral orgasm. Most women will respond to G-Spot stimulation differently than clitoral stimulation. When these two areas are stimulated at the same time, a resonance is created between them as more and more nerve fibers are recruited and send pleasure signals to the brain. There is a cumulative effect, which is immensely pleasurable. This technique is best attempted after you have mastered the G-Spot, are familiar with it's location, understand how to best stimulate it, and have become used to having G-Spot orgasms. The better you know your partner and understand her sexual responses, the better this will work. Ok, what we are going to do here is try to get your lady to have these two different types of orgasms simultaneously, thus taking her to a whole new level of pleasure. Master this one, and your stock goes up - WAY UP! I want you to imagine a scale from 1-10 where 1 is 'Un-stimulated' and 10 is 'Orgasm'. Moisten a finger (which ever one works best for you), insert it in the vagina, and find the G-Spot. Begin to stimulate the G-Spot until your lady reaches a level 2 (on our imaginary scale). When she reaches level 2, leave your finger on the G-Spot, but stop stimulating it. Instead, now start stimulating her clitoris with your tongue. When you are stimulating her clitoris and you feel that she has reached level 2 with her clitoris, stop stimulating it and switch back to her G-Spot. Keep switching back and forth, moving up one level at a time. When she has reached the next level, it's time to switch again. Every once in a while, do both at the same time. Be very careful when you do this. It will be very pleasurable, but don't do it long enough to let her cum. Keep switching back and forth spending only enough time on each area to get her to the next "level". When she has reached a level 9 with both her G-Spot and her clitoris, she should be just about ready to explode. Now do both at the same time again and keep doing it. Keep stimulating both areas even once the orgasm starts. Keep going until she pulls away or tells you to stop. The best case scenario is that she will explode with both orgasms at the same time. Or maybe she will have one of her orgasms followed immediately by the other. Not a bad thing, either way. Don’t get discouraged – it’s really hard for you to judge the exact timing of her "levels" at first. But, keep working at it and you will eventually get the simultaneous orgasms. It’s worth the effort. Perfect this one, and you’ll give her an orgasm so strong, it will disturb regional weather patterns!

· Oral Altoid Technique: In case you aren't familiar with Altoids, they are a mint that you can buy at nearly any grocery store. They come in a metal tin and you can get them in 3 original flavors. The green box is Wintergreen flavored. They produce a mild result with this technique. The medium red box is Peppermint flavored. They produce a moderate result. The dark red box is Cinnamon flavored. They produce a very strong result with this technique. Use the box that suits your level of tolerance. I would recommend starting with the green or medium red box. Take a mint from the box and begin to suck on it in your mouth for a few seconds, to round off the rough edges. Keep the mint in your mouth and begin to lick/suck her clitoris. As the Altoid dissolves, it will produce a hot, tingly effect on the clitoris. Don’t forget her nipples, too!

· Oral Fire & Ice Technique: For this technique, you will need a glass of ice (or something else cold) and a cup of coffee (or something hot). Take the cold item and put it in your mouth to make your mouth cold. Now perform oral sex on her with your cold mouth. Do that for a minute or two and then put the hot item in your mouth to make your mouth hot. Now perform oral sex on her, again. Keep switching back and forth. The different sensations feel terrific! Be sure to switch it up a bit, too. In other words, instead of doing hot, then cold, then hot, then cold, do something like hot, cold, cold, hot, cold, hot, hot. This way she won't know which one to expect and she will not be able to prepare herself for what's coming.

· Air Blow Technique: While performing oral sex on your lady, lick her really well and get her nice and wet. Be sure to lick everywhere 'down there'. Now blow lightly on these wet areas. It feels
really nice. If you want an even better effect, then do this same technique with Altoids in your mouth. Get her really wet with your minty saliva, then lightly blow on her. Wow! The Altoids *really* increase the effect of this technique.

WARNING: Never, ever blow inside the vagina. This can cause an air bubble (Air Embolism) to enter her bloodstream and can result in very serious injury and even death!!! Keep all of your blowing on the outside area (called the vulva).

· Air Blow Tips: Here are a few tips concerning air blowing. If you blow air from your mouth at a close distance, the air will feel warm. If you back off a bit with your distance, the air will feel cool. You can intensify the effect by wetting the target area first. You can REALLY intensify the effect by wetting the area first with an Altoid mint. Go ahead try it out on your own arm. Blow warm air and then cool air. Wet your arm and try again. See the difference?

· Straw Technique: Take a straw and blow light, concentrated air on her clit. Try it on her nipples and labia, too. The straw allows you to be very precise about where the air hits. It also condenses the air into a smaller space, thus giving you greater pressure with your precision. Try it after licking her clit with Altoids in your mouth, too, but be careful. That cuts like a knife - at least it feels that way!

· Slow Tongue Technique: Imagine a scale from 1-10 where 1 is really slow and 10 is really fast. Now think about the speed you use with your tongue while performing oral sex on your lady. Let’s say your normal speed is a 6. One day, just for kicks, slow down to a 2. It may drive her wild! Try it out!

· External Clock Technique: Imagine that her vulva is a clock. (Her externally visible genitalia is called the vulva. The vagina actually refers only to the canal which is not actually visible from the outside - except the opening.) Anyway, imagine her vulva is a clock. At 12:00, there's the clitoris. At 6:00, her vaginal opening. This technique helps you explore the entire vulva with your tongue - not just the clit. Start at the 12:00 position with your tongue. Now go in a clockwise direction and focus for a while on each "time" period until you get back to 12:00. You may find other areas of the vulva besides just the 12:00 and 6:00 positions that give her tremendous pleasure. This is a great technique because too many of us tend to focus on just the clitoris and the vaginal opening. There is so much more real estate to explore. This technique will help you do just that. Happy hunting!

· Tiny Movements Clit Technique: Take the very tip of your tongue and put it directly on her clitoris. Now move your tongue very, very slowly in a very small circle, or left to right, or up and down (see which one she has the best response to). You are just barely moving your tongue. You can even stop sometimes, but just keep your tongue there on her clit and she will likely start to move her clit against your tongue.

· Peppermint Dip Oral Technique: For this technique, pour some Peppermint Schnapps into your lady’s belly button. Now dip your tongue into the schnapps and lick her labia and clitoris. Dip your tongue back into the Schnapps and lick her some more. Now lightly blow on the labia and clitoris. The cooling effect of the Schnapps makes for an intense feeling.

· Diamond In The Rough Technique: Wet heat has been used for ages for relaxation and healing. Before you make love, take 2 washcloths and set them out in front of you, each in the shape of a diamond. Now cut a 3-4 inch vertical slit in the center of each one with a pair of scissors. Submerge each one in a bowl of hot water and place it next to the bed. When your lady is naked, have her lie down on her back and open her legs for you. Take one washcloth, wring it out, and place it against her vulva in the shape of a diamond, not a square. The top tip of the diamond should be up against her pubic hair. The bottom tip should be near her anus. The side tips should be against her thighs. Now press against the washcloth with your hands and perform some of your best oral sex maneuvers on her labia and clitoris through the hole in the cloth. The wet heat feeling is incredible and therapeutic. When that washcloth loses it’s heat, just place it back in the bowl, grab the other one, wring it out, and place it on her vulva and you are all set again. We want the washcloths to be very warm for this technique, but not hot. Be careful not to burn her.

· Light Clit Technique: Put your tongue on her clitoris so that it is touching it ever so slightly. Now move your tongue around, maintaining the super light touch. Just barely touch her clit the whole time, using feather touches. Move your tongue slowly and let the orgasm build slowly and gradually.

· Four Finger Fence Technique: Ok. Here’s a handy technique to keep your tongue right on target with her clitoris. Have you ever been giving your lady oral sex only to find out later that you were not quite on the right spot? Hopefully you have a lady that would tell you immediately, so you can make the quick adjustment. Let’s face it. It’s a bit tricky sometimes to stay on the right spot. It’s dark, she’s moving around, and it’s such a tiny little spot. Use the index and middle finger of each hand to fence in her clitoris. That is, place the fingers all around her clitoris, so that the clitoris is easily found right in the middle of your fingers. Your fingers are much easier to feel with your tongue than her clitoris. Just keep your tongue in the middle of your fingers, and you will be assured you are on the right spot. Genius, huh? You’re welcome!

CONCLUSION:
I hope you were able to pick up some new information to take your cunnilingus to the next level. Remember, many guys don’t give great oral sex, so do it and do it often – and make sure she knows you enjoy doing it. This alone will set you apart. There are few things better than bringing your lady to complete ecstasy under the power of your tongue, so learn how to use it and learn how to use it well.
Practice makes perfect. Have fun and enjoy each other! Happy licking!

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