"He delicately placed his fingertip on my clit, pushed into it and rolled it around very slowly in one circular stroke. It lasted at least ten breaths and I felt like I was in a wave being pushed luxuriously through the ocean. The highest peak was slow and a steady up that just kept climbing. My body felt light and energetic, humming, rumbling, rolling in sensation. It completely encompassed my nervous system, sight (bright cobalt blue), sound (low constant humming), smell (warm musky), touch (tingly sensitive skin)."

The clitoris is the most sensitive spot on a woman's body. It has the highest concentration of nerve endings in the body. When you consider the anatomy of the clitoris, there is much more than meets the eye. Homologous to the penis, and just as the penis has more to it than the glans (the head), so does the clitoris. Composed of erectile tissue, the shaft of the clitoris resides underneath a woman's hood and is surrounded by blood vessels allowing it to engorge. The root of the clitoris is found even deeper within, branching out along the upper wall of the vagina and splits as it goes through the urethral sponge. A woman's clitoris has no other function than to give pleasure.

Deliberate Orgasm, (DOing) is a method of producing orgasm in a woman's body through manual stimulation of her clitoris. Manual stimulation is the best way to achieve this because your fingertip is a precise touching instrument that you have more control over than any other body part. More than just a technique, DOing is an art that requires two people who are willing to have fun and pleasure as the goal, to communicate about what they notice and what they are feeling. Deliberate Orgasm is a sex act in and of itself. As an addition to your sex life it will enhance all other sexual and sensual experiences.

The standard model for orgasm in our culture is a male model of building tension and going over, with the goal being the release at the end. This release signifies the end of the sex act. On the other hand, pleasure oriented orgasm is based on the female model where the goal is to enjoy each stroke as a complete sex act, taking pleasure in the whole experience. It is a dome shaped orgasm with many peaks along the way. A pleasure oriented orgasm can apparently take infinite forms. One time it could be a meandering walk through the park and the next long high peaks, or fast peaks up and then good solid slow grounding ride down. The possibilities are endless. DOing is an intensely pleasurable form of safe sex that provides a foundation to having a fun sex life.

Communication is an essential part of Deliberate Orgasm. In DOing, we communicate to ask for what we want and find out what our partner wants in a way that has both parties win. Communicating about what feels good and what each person is experiencing before, during and after enriches the experience. Talking in this way takes the mystery out of sex, which lets face it, there is already enough of that. There are also several recommended DOing Positions, which allow for easy communication.

Masturbation is another fun way to explore and learn about your body and what you like. Using the DOing technique while masturbating with the focus being on building pleasurable sensation rather than getting rid of it can expand your orgasm. This is a great way to take care of your body and have pleasure be a part of your daily life.

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The Welcomed Consensus is a group of five friends who formed a partnership offering videos and courses in sensuality, relationships, communication, and lifestyles. After 70 collective years of experience in sensual research, education, group living, and the pursuit of the most pleasurable lifestyle we think possible, we feel we have a lot to contribute toward making relationships and sex more fun, more pleasurable. Our focus is on superior orgasm. In this culture there are very few places where people can go to be trained to expand their orgasm. We are that kind of place.

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