All women are different as to how they need stimulating and for how long before they will be brought to orgasm. Some women report that they can masturbate to orgasm in little more than a minute while others say it can take an hour or more to achieve a climax. Some women only like very gentle indirect stimulation of their clitoris and prefer stimulation of other parts of the body, while others prefer intense, powerful and direct clitoral stimulation. Until you figure out what works best for you, masturbating is unlikely to be a fully satisfying experience and orgasming may be the exception rather than the rule.

If you are finding it hard or impossible to reach an orgasm through masturbation and you suspect the cause is physical (see sections on medical and mental causes) the following ideas may help.

Techniques
Achieving orgasm through masturbation is a combination of the physical stimulation of erotic areas of the body and getting into the right state of mind. Some women can all but reach orgasm by thinking about a sexual fantasy and so require very little stimulation while others (most) need a lot more physical stimulation to achieve a climax. The more stimulation you need the more likely it is that you will need/want to concentrate on stimulating your clitoris, as this is the most sensitive and responsive of the erogenous zones (for most women).

Many ways exist for stimulating your clitoris during a masturbation session and no one way is the right way. Take a look around the rest of the masturbation section here at clitical for many ideas on techniques that work for other women. Bear in mind though that what works for one person many not always work for another. I'd suggest you start by reading the Techniques section which is packed with ideas and tips.

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