Yoni
is the Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated
as "sacred space" or "Sacred Temple." In
Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect.
This is particularly important for men to learn.
Before
beginning the Yoni Massage it is important to create a space
for the woman (the receiver) in which to relax, from which she
can more easily enter a state of high arousal and experience
great pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) will experience
the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment.
The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of "safe sex"
and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some
massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through
sexual blocks or trauma.
The
goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although
orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal
can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the Yoni. From this
perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and do not have
to worry about achieving any particular goal. When orgasm does
occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying.
It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return,
but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax
into herself.
The
Massage
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head
so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver).
Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs
are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows
or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals
clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access
to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the
body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver
should remember to breathe deeply, slowly and with relaxation
during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the
receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or begins
to take shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating,
is most important.
Gently
massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to encourage
the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching
her Yoni. Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant
on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips
down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Begin
gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend
time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger,
and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the
same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.
It
is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's
eyes as much as possible. The receiver should tell the giver
if the pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or
decreased. Limit your conversation and focus on the pleasurable
sensation, too much talking will diminish the effect.
The
Crown Jewel
The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function
to the male's glands, but surprisingly - up to four times more
sensitive. The glands portion of the clitoris holds 6,000 -
8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in
the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one purpose:
pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive and transmit
sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glands are "crown
jewel" of the clitoral system!
Gently
stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles.
Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as
a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will
undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her
to relax and breathe.
Slowly
and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right
hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand
as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra).
Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with
this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and
sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. It is important
to remember that this is a massage in which you are nurturing
and relaxing the Yoni. With your palm facing up, and the middle
finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come
here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will
contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind
the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, "the sacred
spot". She may feel the need to urinate, experience a little
discomfort or most hopefully pleasure. Vary the pressure, speed
and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and
forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert
the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky.
Most
women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation
from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may
use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as
well. An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert
the pinky of the right hand into her anus. [In Tantra, it is
said that when your pinky is gently massaging her anus, the
next finger and middle finger in her Yoni and your thumb on
her clitoris, "You are holding one of the mysteries of
the universe in your hand."]
You
can use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or clitoris.
If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb
in an up down motion, with the rest of the hand resting on,
and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left
hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. Continue
massaging, using varying speed, pressure and motion, all the
while continuing to breathe deeply and looking into each other's
eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just
keep breathing and be gentle. Some women have been sexually
abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner
can be of immeasurable value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep
her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms
may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called
"riding the wave."
In
ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove
your hands. Allow her to relax and enjoy the afterglow of the
Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well.
As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be
greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine
sexuality.
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