Written by:
Jenne
In
an ideal world to find your or your partner's clitoris would take
no more energy than looking at a map. Unfortunately for many we
live in less than a perfect word and for many finding the all
illusive clitoris is akin to looking for the Lochness Monster.
The
truth is though that your clitoris is there, alive and well, all
that is required to find it is a little exploration.
Before
we start exploring though, I want to point out that not being
sure of where your or your partners clitoris is not unusual. Hidden
beneath folds of skin that many of us were told were private,
forbidden areas of our body for a variety of reasons. Exploring
down there was sure to result in disaster, but we are about to
put those myths to rest. So let's put on our best crocodile Dundee
hat and go down under shall we?
Oh,
and you'll also need a mirror for this excursion Make sure your
sitting comfortably in front of the mirror and we'll begin.
You
might find it helpful to look at THIS
picture before you start as this is basically a road map of the
female anatomy, but remember your own vulva will not be an exact
replica of this picture as we are all different. Gently open the
folds of your vulva and take a good look in the mirror. If this
is the first time you've ever done this then take it slowly.
Now
sit in front of the mirror and take a good look around and while
your at it why not a feel as well? The first thing you will see
is your vulva which is the term used to describe your entire outside
genital area. The second thing will be your libia majora, the
thick, fleshy outer lips that help protect the delicate tip of
the clitoris.
Part
the libia majora and you'll find you'll find a second set of smaller
inner lips known as the libia minor. You'll also likely be able
to see your vagina opening, and above that your clitoris. The
clitoris is the small nub like button which may or may not protrude
out depending on whether your possess a hooded clitoris or not.
Once
you've located what you think is your clitoris why not try touching
it very gently? What your touching is one of the most amazing
pieces of the female body and unlike it's male counterpart, the
penis, one that is designed simply for your pleasure as it it
has no other function. Packed with between 6-8,000 nerve endings
the clitoris is probably the most sensitive part of a woman's
body besides her skin. Just like the male penis, the clitoris
once stimulated will fill with blood and swell. Both the penis
and the clitoris extend deep within their owners bodies and what
you are touching now is basically only the tip of the iceberg.
That iceberg can have the same impact on you as the one that hit
the titanic but the feelings it can give are ones of pure pleasure.
Try
gently rubbing that small tip, while watching in the mirror, you'll
likely be amazed by the changes that take place as you become
more aroused. What your experiencing is an erection, the only
difference is that for some women these are more pronounced than
in others. Some women find as they become aroused their clitoris
will stick out more, while others find little change visually
in their clitoris but report the same general feelings of pleasure
that the other group do.
So
now you've found your clitoris, the next challenge is to get your
partner to go exploring as well. Many of the women who visit Clitical
tell us that their partners can;t find their clitoris or even
if they do they don't seem to know what to do with it. One word
here says it all: Communication.
Your
partner doesn't own a clitoris road map anymore than you do and
as we are all individual even if they are an experienced lover
your clitoris may not be the same as past lovers in their life.
Just as you learnt via exploring your own folds and flaps you
have to allow your partner to do the same. You can also gently
guide them around the area, taking their hand and helping them
explore.
So
know you've found your clitoris, the next challenge is to get
your partner to explore as e your own folds and flaps to discover
your clitoris you have to allow your partner to do the same. You
can also gently guide them around the area, take their hand and
help them explore.
In
closing I think it's worth pointing out that no two clitori or
set of genitalia are the same. Instead they are as individual
as the person that owns then. Many of the pictures on the Internet
show women with large protruding clitori, the point I'm trying
to make is that the size of your clitoris makes no difference
to the amount of pleasure it can give you. The only thing that
makes that difference is your willingness to explore different
strokes, timing and sensations till you find which work for you.
Explore
what you have and happy hunting!
