Written
By: Jenne
Authors
note: This guide is not the definitive guide to fellatio
as there will never be a guide written that can cover every
aspect of the art of cock sucking. Just as all women are different
the same is true of men. This guide is merely meant to be just
that, a guide. There is no written text that can compensate
for having a gentle patient man who is willing to communicate
with you as you perform oral sex. What this guide is intended
to do, is point you in the right direction...
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Introduction
Ask most men and they will tell you that one of the aspects
they most enjoy when it comes to sex is receiving oral. In fact,
there are very few men that don't enjoy the sensations experienced
from this very special and intimate act. Why? It's primarily
because the mouth can produce a sucking sensation that the vagina
cannot. Giving your lover head should be a gentle mixture of
both technique and assessing his response pattern. Use your
senses to guide you, listen to the sound of his breathing and
channel his energy with each touch. Cock sucking is not something
that is learnt overnight and one of the most important things
a guy can do for a women, especially if it's her first time,
is to be patient and supportive.
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The
Basics:
For the boys: A lot of chatter goes around when it comes to
the distinctive aroma of a woman's pussy. The same is equally
true when it comes to the male jiggle stick. Taking a bath or
shower prior to getting a blowjob ensures that your genitals
are clean & hygienic and you will be greatly rewarded by
her talented tongue.
Showering
can easily be incoperated into oral sex as not only is it exciting
to sensually lather each other up, but it's also a great way
to ensure that you're both comfortable and relaxed - especially
important when you intend to do some cock sucking later -)).
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Back to the lesson. Humans have five senses; taste, touch, sight,
smell, and hearing - use them. When it comes to giving good
head, you should be using at least three of these senses at
any given time. Receiving a blowjob is a combination of physical
and visual sensations. Many men find a seductive gaze from their
partner while performing fellatio highly erotic. Draw on your
ears; listen to your partner's reactions as you touch various
areas of his body. Listen to his breathing patterns as you work
your way down towards his most prized possession. Feel him jump
with anticipation as you softly caress various areas of his
body.
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Take
your time! Many women think that the quicker they can make a
guy come the better. Whilst it's true that a fair percentage
of men enjoy this approach, this is not the best way to give
your guy a great orgasm. In actuality, it's probably the worst
way, but as I said a moment ago, some men do enjoy the quick
and fast method. The longer that you can keep your partner sexually
energized without allowing things to become unexciting, the
deeper and harder his orgasm is likely to be.
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A
word to the guys here, be patient with your partner. Being able
to give good head is very much a learnt talent and as such the
more expressive you are when your receiving it the better the
whole experience will be for both of you. Your partner wants
to give you pleasure, help them by showing that's is exactly
what you are receiving. A moan or soft words of encouragement
can go a long way when it comes to showing your partner what
you like. If she hits a particularly sensitive area then don't
be afraid to tell her.
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Lubrication,
lubrication and again I say lubrication. I can't stress how
important that one word is when it comes to giving head. Makes
sure your partners cock is well lubricated when you give head.
Try this little test and you'll see why lubrication makes so
much difference. Take your finger and rub it with your hand,
it might feel okay, but now put that finger in your mouth and
cover it in saliva, now rub your hand across it. Feel the difference
that saliva makes to the sensations you receive? Now imagine
your finger is your partners cock and you'll have some idea
of why lubrication is so important for not only ensuring that
your partner does not end up sore but also he has the most pleasurable
experience you can give him. It's a good idea to take a sip
of a drink [non-alcoholic] before you start, as this will naturally
make your mouth moist.
Another
way to add lubrication is to use a shop brought lubrication
of some kind. Remember you are going to be putting this in your
mouth, so make sure you choose an edible one that is specifically
made for the purpose. They also have the advantage of making
your partner's taste more to your liking if this is something
that worries you, as they come in a huge variety of flavors.
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Use
your hands as well as your mouth. Yes, this is oral sex we are
talking about here, but using your hands as well can only add
to your experience. Why limit yourself to just using your mouth,
tongue, and lips to provide him with pleasure? Your hands can
be used in multiple ways and we'll look at specific techniques
a little later.
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Something
that many men complain about is that women forget that a cock
is a three-dimension object. It has a back, a front and two
sides. For most men the underside of their cock [the part that
faces their body when flaccid] is by far the most sensitive
of the four but often receives the least attention.
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Be
Safe: Whether you choose to use condoms when giving oral
is a personal choice. It is worth noting however, that brushing
your teeth before giving a blowjob is probably not a good idea.
This is because the brushing action leaves tiny cuts in your
mouth, and although they heal in minutes, it's something worth
considering.
That's covered the basics, and these points are all worth remembering
if you want to give or receive mind blowing fellatio.
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Advanced Techniques
Variety is the spice of good oral.
Many people are under the impression that to give good oral
all you have to do is suck hard and move your head up and down.
Whilst this works with a good number of guys, I have to say
this is not the best route to take. Instead, try varying your
techniques - but I don't mean every two seconds. Instead of
just pumping for all your worth, slow down and take your time.
Enjoy the sensations as his cock jumps to attention. Not only
will it feel good for him, you are a lot less likely to end
up with jaw ache if you use your hands and tongue as well as
your mouth. As one of the guys I interviewed when writing this
guide commented:
"Use
hands as well! Mouths are very soft and squishy and sometimes
some extra firm pressure is nice/needed. When used to slowly
stroke the shaft as a tongue plays with the head is very nice
(kind of like a blowjob and hand job combined)!"
Doing
the vacuuming
This technique has nothing to do with housework so stop panicking.
Some guys enjoy being sucked really hard whilst others hate
it. But it is worth mentioning, as this can be a useful technique
when it comes to adding variety to a blowjob. You might like
to try sucking hard as you move your mouth up his shaft or alternatively
as you move down it. As always, let your partner be your guide
and don't be afraid to try different variations.
"I
especially like suction on the penis. The more that is in my
lover's mouth (as much as she can tolerate), the better. Tongue
motion during the sucking action helps quite a bit."
Fancy
ball work
To say that all men enjoy football would be a generalization
but it appears overall that most men enjoy a little ball playing
whilst you perform oral. Girls, ask yourself this: if a guy
is giving you oral, do you enjoy it when he reaches up and pays
attention to your nipples and breasts? The chances are the answer
is yes, so all you are doing is returning the favor when you
play with his crown jewels. Just be careful. While his balls
can give him great pleasure, too much pressure can have the
opposite effect to the one we desire. I thought this comment
was rather poignant from another interviewee:
"It
is like the whip cream on a piece of chocolate pie. The chocolate
pie alone is good; the whip cream makes it just that much better.
A little licking, sucking and squeezing in that area is great."
As
a foot note to ball work, it's worth mentioning that although
many men don't like the thought of having their anus touched,
this can be a very sensitive area and one worth exploring with
your tongue if you are comfortable doing so. If you're not comfortable
with the idea of licking his anus then try just licking his
balls and the surrounding area. This should include the area
called the perineum, which runs between his scrotum and his
anus. This area of his body is packed with nerve endings and
can add greatly to his pleasure.
Deep-Throating
There are few men that will tell you that having their cock
buried down their partner's throat is not an extremely pleasurable
experience. For many women though deep-throating can cause problems,
the most serious one being the gag reflex. It is possible to
over-come this reflex however, and practice in this case can
certainly pay off.
Next time you want to try deep-throating first start by getting
a feel for how far you can comfortably take his cock into your
mouth without gagging. Then grip his shaft at that point to
prevent him thrusting any deeper into your mouth. Each time
you give him a blowjob try taking a little more of him into
your mouth. Another important part is to try and breath through
your nose and not your mouth. This makes life so much easier
and you're less likely to gag.
Guys,
be patient! Grabbing her head and yanking it towards your crotch
will not get you the results you desire. This is one time when
you need to allow your partner to feel in complete control,
especially if this is her first attempt. I think the comment
below says it all:
"There
have been LOTS of discussions on this over the years. I recall
reading time and again that when you're highly excited the gag
reflex abates, so why force the issue? - Wait for the right
moment, see if it works, and if it doesn't, so what?"
Handiwork
Many techniques involve not only using your mouth, but your
hands as well. Whilst there is nothing wrong with simply using
your mouth, using you hands in conjunction with it can only
add to your partner's pleasure.
The
most obvious way to use your hands is simply by caressing your
partner. This can either be over their whole body during both
foreplay or as you give oral. I've listed some techniques below
that are worthy of a try.
For
this one your partner will need to be really lubricated. Either
with your own saliva or with a good shop brought lubricant.
To begin, start at the base of his cock and slowly slide your
hand towards the tip, whilst you place you're other hand at
the base. Just before you're first hand reaches the tip start
moving your second hand {the one at the base of his shaft] upwards
towards his tip, then place your other hand down at the base
once more and repeat. Start out slowly and then begin to increase
the tempo. This is one of those tricks that is great for getting
him from flaccid to fully erect. Of course, the technique can
be applied the other way around, IE: starting at the tip, but
my advice is only try this when he's fully erect.
As I mentioned in the deep-throating section, using your hand
to stop his cock slipping further down your throat than you
desire or can manage is handy as well. Most importantly though,
you can use your hands whilst concentrating your oral effort
on the spot where most guys are highly sensitive. The spot I'm
referring to is where his head meets his shaft, technically
known as the corona. Try swirling your tongue around this area
as you firmly squeeze his shaft with your hands and watch his
reactions. Another great technique is to concentrate your sucking
actions only on his head, bobbing your head up and down, so
your lips roll over the ridge where his head meets the shaft.
Whilst at the sametime moving your hands up and down his shaft.
This technique takes a little practice but it's worth the effort,
and is great for beginners as it requires only taking a small
amount of his cock into your mouth.
Licking:
Imagine your guy's cock is a flavor of ice cream you adore.
It even looks like an ice cream when you think about it. [Use
your imagination a little here] Take your ice cream and savor
it, lick it, tease bits of it with your tongue and explore its
tastes and textures with both your tongue and mouth. Apply lashings
of long licks to the shaft area and then grip it firmly with
your hands and begin slowly moving your hand up and down. Whilst
your doing that begin licking his head, before taking the whole
head into your mouth and applying a suction motion while moving
up and down. Use your mouth and hands in unison for an exquisite
all over effect.
Spit
or Swallow?
Many people say this is not a big issue, but the truth is in
many cases it can be/is. As with everything else, for many guys
it's not a big deal. But for most it does make a difference.
Not even so much in whether you choose to spit or swallow but
the manner in which you do it. In other words, there are polite
ways to not swallow. It's similar to being in a restaurant and
you find your steak has a little bit of gristle in it. You're
not likely to spit it back out onto your plate out of good manners.
Instead, you'll most likely discreetly place it in a napkin
or your hand before disposing of it.
If
you don't want to swallow, then I suggest you either have a
napkin or something similar handy. Either that, or you can simply
place your tongue in such a position that it acts as a barrier
between your mouth and his cum. To do this, place the underside
of your tongue over the head of his cock as he's about to come,
and allow it to dribble back down the outside of his already
lubricated shaft. You might also consider finishing him with
a hand job, but keep your mouth close to him, maybe even rub
your cheek along his head, whilst your eyes meet his.
Something
worth mentioning here is that the trick to swallowing is often
not to taste his semen at all. Although some women enjoy the
taste, as mentioned before many don't. To avoid tasting it when
your guy starts to cum the natural reaction is to hold it in
your mouth for a moment before swallowing it. This is the only
reason you actually taste it. Next time, right after he comes,
just try swallowing immediately and hard. Even better, if you
can deep-throat, just make him come whilst it's in the back
of your throat. Using both of these techniques means all you
will be left with is a vague aftertaste instead of the full
monty. The hard swallow technique also feels good to a lot of
guys.
Seismic
After shocks
Hopefully your guy has just erupted due to your excellent oral
administrations. Most guys will tell you or rather they won't
that it's great for you to keep up the sucking, moving action
whilst they are erupting but once they are spent their head
just like your clitoris is inclined to become very sensitive
and is best left well alone. As one of the guys I asked put
it:
"Keep
sucking/licking, during the climax phase (Ejaculation) is great,
but when the squirting stops, the head of the penis becomes
super sensitive. That is when you should give it a rest for
a few minutes, until after the sensitivity subsides."
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As
I said in the introduction to this 'how to' there are no rights
or wrongs here, only what feels good and comfortable to both
you and your partner.
Whatever techniques you choose, stay safe and have fun…
