Written
By: Nymuweah
This
was actually a reply I wrote a while ago but I thought you might
find it useful. As for positions, doggy-style anal intercourse
is probably the easiest, especially the first time, but spooning
from the side can be very pleasurable and intimate. Face to
face works also, but it helps to evelate the woman's pelvis
with a pillow (if she is on bottom), use hands to carefully
guide the penis into the anus (in all cases, but especially
if woman is on top), and do a bit of leg wrapping and maneuvering
(especially if face to face on your sides). Anyway, here's my
take on anal sex:
I
am a 20-year-old female.
The
majority of my anal experiences have been positive. The first
time we put his cock all the way in my ass, we went too quickly,
and although I enjoyed the experience overall, I hurt so much
afterwards that I was to the point of crying and wanting to
vomit from the pain. But I must make it clear: ANAL SEX DOESN'T
HAVE TO HURT! If he and I do it right, I moan and cum like nothing
else!
My
partner and I prefer to use Astroglide--it's
not so sticky as KY Jelly and a little bit really does go a
long way. It also has a slightly sweet taste.
The
essential things that have made for some AMAZING anal experiences
for me are:
1) Being in the mood. If I don't want something in my ass that
day, nothing is going to make me loosen up.
2)
Having a clear rectum. It may take some planning, but if you
think you might be having anal intercourse, eat fiber the day
before. I like having an empty, relatively clean ass before
anal sex, but I've found that if I go to the bathroom just before,
the tissues are sometimes a little torn or raw if I'd been constipated,
and that makes anal sex stingly painful and continually irritating--no
fun. So I like to stay regular before anal sex. Get to know
your regular bowel movements, and plan accordingly.
3)
Trust. This, obviously, takes time. But it also deepens the
pleasure for both us. And without trust, I find it difficult
to relax.
4)
Relaxation. If I'm feeling loved and thoroughly adored, chances
are pretty good that my ass is wanting it. If he as gone down
on me and gotten me to cum once already, I'm even more relaxed.
Things that really help to relax the anal sphincters for me
are slow breathing, him massaging my ass (not just my anus,
but the entire ass, cheeks and all), the sound of his voice,
and slow and gentle finger play with my anus. I love the sound
of my lover's voice; I love to hear him tell me how beautiful
my ass is, how much he wants me, how much he loves me, how wonderful
it's going to feel for the both of us when he is inside me.
The sound is incredibly relaxing, and it builds the very intimate
and trusting atmosphere. That and him teasing my ass very slowly
with his fingers and Astroglide
(we haven't tried annilingus yet, but we are planning on it),
makes sure I'm very ready.
5)Lubrication.
Use tons of it. Much more than you think you'll need, then add
more later. Use it even when you're just teasing the outside
of the ass with your fingers--it feels divine. I've tried KY
Jelly, Astroglide,
saliva, Vaseline, and my own vagina secretions. Vaseline feels
great, but it's not condom
compatible and it tends to leave greasy, irregular bowel moments
for the following day or two. Both my partner and I love
Astroglide. I carry a small bottle in my purse so we're
never without it!
6)TIME.
This is CRUCIAL. Please go slowly. A lack of time taken has
been the number one cause of my discomfort and non-enjoyment
of anal sex. Don't rush it; set aside plenty of time. I especially
like my partner to go very slowly while inserting his penis
into me. First of all, it allows the ass to gradually adjust,
and you're likely to tear fewer tissues (i.e. less pain). Secondly,
I love the sensation of feeling my ass slowly being filled by
his cock. I feel like I'm swallowing him. I really like to control
the pace by being the one to slowly push back on him at the
pace I'm ready to take him. And once he's fully inside, there
is nothing else like that!
One
of the most exquisite sensations for me of anal sex is when
he pulls out and then slides back in the first time. The in-stroke
is absolutely amazingly pleasurable for me. I can't help but
moan and push back towards him. I love it. And anything he does
to my ass makes my pussy sopping wet--I mean DRIPPING EVERYWHERE.
I love slow at first, but there comes a point while he's making
love to my ass that I want to him speed up and just take me--outright
take me. Hard, fast--it's fantastic. It's then that I feel completely
full. The sensation is very different from having him in my
vagina; everything is so very tight, and the pressure is what
causes the pleasure. It just all feels so good. I find I can
cum rather quickly with him in my ass, especially since I usually
rub my clit once he's inside me. My pussy gets my clit so wet,
and it's so swollen from the pleasure of feeling him in my ass,
that it's screaming to be touched! And it's an AMAZING feeling
to squeeze my lover's cock in my ass as I cum around him. I
cum so hard when he does anything to my ass, and with him inside
me I usually cum so hard and squeeze him so tightly that he
has a hard time moving because the sensation is so intense for
him. It's fabulous for me, and I find that I can cum again rather
quickly if he stays in my ass and continues [censored] me (although
after I've cum with him in my ass, I prefer a slower pace again
for a while until we build up again). In any case, I love anal
sex, and practice it a few times a month at least. Not all the
time, but it's something I definitely wouldn't want to do without!
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Whether or not you decide to have anal sex, I hope this at least
answers a few questions from a woman's perspective. Most of
all, enjoy yourself!
