Masturbation: Social And Moral Issues

The list of benefits given earlier suggests that masturbation is wonderful and that it has no down side at all. Well it is pretty wonderful but there are some real problems and difficulties that have to be considered against the positives. It would be unfair if we did not publish these here too, as they are essential if you are to get the whole picture about masturbation.

1. Religion is a real problem for many girls that discover masturbation. The Bible and other holy books apparently forbid masturbation and label it a sin. But if you look at the texts in question they are all, or at least the ones I have seen or had quoted to me, directed at males. There is no parallel for a girl to the male act of 'spilling ones seed on the ground'. Female masturbation is purely a pleasure act, it does not cause us to release gametes and has no direct relation to the reproductive process at all. Taken literally then there is no ban on us masturbating. Males that say otherwise are just jealous that we are free to play while the religiously observant male has to stick to intercourse for sexual release. That's how we see it and so we have no conflict between our masturbation and our religious beliefs. We hope you can agree with this, if religion is important in your life, but if you can't then perhaps its down to choosing between masturbation and your faith - no advice given on this one as its entirely up to you.

2. Just because you may be happy that its OK to masturbate does not mean others will feel the same about you doing it. In fact masturbation is still a taboo subject for many. This means that you have to keep your activity secret by hiding any items you may use, ensure privacy when masturbating and not leaving obvious clues around. You also have to take care in deciding who, if anyone, you will tell about your pass-time as not only may they react badly to the information but they could betray your secret to others.

3. Don't ever think you can do another girl a favor by introducing her to masturbation as the risks to your friendship etc, as well as the risk of being ridiculed by her and others, is great.

4. There is no medical risk to simple masturbation (refer to the dangers pages on more exotic practices issues) but if it becomes an obsession that disrupts normal social and work life then you need to take stock of the situation and maybe seek professional medical help. (So the stories of going blind, causing cancer, etc are all rubbish)

5. There is no age limit on masturbation, no one is too young and no one is too old. There are minimum age restraints, however, on the purchase of many specialist masturbation items that you may be interested in, especially if you have read our techniques section or if you have surfed the Net a bit and heard of things like vibrators etc. Don't risk getting yourself into trouble by lying about your age or trying to order through the mail. The Law is the Law, whether we like it or not.

6. Masturbation in private is fine but in any place that can be defined as being public, including public toilets, in cars, in the open country etc. it can be regarded as an indecent act and may leave you liable to prosecution.

7. Its quite possible to masturbate while driving a car (especially if its an automatic gear shift type!) but it is foolish and illegal to try. You will be driving without care and attention, especially when you orgasm, and would you be able to live with yourself if your attempt at a moments pleasure caused an accident or a death?

8. Virginity has gone a bit out of fashion but you have to consider the impact masturbation may have on your virginity status if its an issue for you. Technically no amount of masturbation can take your virginity as its intercourse with a male that does that, but any act of self penetration could stretch or tear your hymen, giving the same physical appearance as lost virginity.

As always, if you have anything to add, write to us!