
What
is their purpose?
Breasts serve several purposes. They nurture the young by producing
milk, they attract the male of the species, and they are a source
of seemingly endless sexual inspiration, fascination, and fantasy
for men and even some women. They are also a potential
favorite hotspot during sexual play.
Description:
Breasts are made up of mostly fatty and connective tissue. Just
like most other body parts, breasts come in many different sizes,
shapes, and colors. They can be the same size and shape, but
oftentimes, one breast may look a little different than the
other. The breasts and nipples may enlarge in the days prior
to a womans period and may grow extra sensitive during
this time as well as during (and after) pregnancy.
The
circular area surrounding the nipple is called the areola. The
areola is anywhere from pink to dark brown in color, varies
in size, is filled with nerve endings, and is often very sensitive.
If you look close, you may see little bumps around the perimeter
of the areola. These are glands and hair follicles and can also
be very sensitive. Yes, unlike the airbrushed supermodel image
engraved in your brain, real women can have hair on their breasts.
Some of these women remove the hair and some dont.
When
breasts are first stimulated, the nipples may grow erect. The
breasts may also swell by up to 25% from the blood that rushes
into them.
Average
nipple size (male): 0.22 inches (5.5 mm).
Average nipple size (female): 0.27 inches (6.79 mm).
Average areola size (female): 1.4 inches (35.62 mm).
Statistics
are great fun and can be very informative, but just be sure
to keep them in the proper perspective, ok? The fact of the
matter is that there is a large range of behaviors and activities
that can be considered normal, even if they are
not the statistical norm. Dont use statistics as a measuring
tool with which to gauge yourself or your performance. Keep
in mind that for any given average, there have to be numbers
that are higher and lower than the average, for it to be called
an average. No one is average across the board. Keep in mind
that the statistically average person has one testicle and half
of a vagina. Whats normal or average
for one person may not be normal or average for everyone, so
dont let these statistics define whats average for
you.
What
do you need to know about them?
Ladies:
· You need to know how to give yourself a breast
self-exam, and you need to do it monthly. [You can find out
more HERE.]
· The size, shape, and appearance of your breasts
may vary a little or a lot from one breast to the other. This
is normal.
· In his book Sheet Music, Dr. Kevin Leman asks
the ladies the following question, Why not now?
Has your man ever come up behind you and cupped your breasts
only to have his hands slapped away as you say, Not now.
Well, why not now? How long does it take to cup some breasts?
10 seconds? You dont have 10 seconds to give your man?
I know what youre thinking. If I let him cup my breasts,
then hell want intercourse and I just dont have
the time right now. Well, instead of shooting him down and deflating
his delicate sexual ego, why not let him cup your breasts for
a few seconds? You might even surprise him by grabbing his genitals
in return while you give him a mischievous giggle. Many times,
thats all hes after, just a quick touch. If hes
interested in more and you dont have the time, then give
him a kiss and tell him, I sure wish we could have hot,
passionate monkey sex right now, but I have to go. Im
late. But you wait until tonight. Tonight youll get all
you want and then some. What you just did was fulfill
your man without even taking your clothes off or messing your
hair up. The other lady that slapped his hands away will have
deflated her man, all because she didnt want to give him
a 10 second feel.
Guys:
· As fascinated as men seem to be with the female
breasts, we generally tend to spend relatively little time stimulating
them during our lovemaking. The average guy spends only 2-3
minutes per breast during a whole sexual encounter - kind of
like they are just passing through on the way down to the vagina,
and if you are having a quickie, that's ok. But, now you are
going to show her that you are a man who not only appreciates
her breasts, but also a man who see her breasts as a destination
rather than somewhere you stop on the way down. You are going
to show her you are a man who completely enjoys to and knows
how to make love to a woman and fulfill her sexual desires.
If your lady responds positively to breast stimulation, then
try spending at least 20 minutes or more on her breasts before
you move on to her vulva. She may love you for it.
· Remember to stimulate the entire breast, not
just the nipple area.
· Remember that she has two breasts. Dont
just focus on one.
· Sometimes one breast or one nipple is more sensitive
than the other. See if this holds true for your lady.
· According to one study, only about 50% of women
actually enjoy breast stimulation. The rest of the women tolerate
it because their partners dont know they dont like
it. Your best bet is to communicate with your lady to see what
she likes.
· Did you know that a lot of women have gone to
the doctor because of lumps their sex partner discovered while
playing with their breasts? Its true, so be sure to pay
attention while fondling your ladys breasts. Look for
bumps, knots, or irregularities.
· Many studies have proven that breast stimulation
generally stimulates the men more than the women.
· Unless she specifically requests otherwise,
please be very gentle with her nipples.
· Just because her nipples get hard, dont
assume that she is enjoying what you are doing. Nipples can
become erect from unpleasant stimulation as well as good stimulation,
so be sure to ask your lady if what you are doing is working
for her.
· Sometimes men get so excited to be playing with
a pair of breasts that they forget there is a woman attached
to them. Play gently and dont forget to pay attention
to HER as well as her breasts.
· Understanding Bra Size Tip: A bras cup
size is just the difference between a ladys breast size
and her band size. Let me explain. A lady measures twice. First
around the flat part of her chest just under her breasts to
which she adds 5 inches to get band size. Then she measures
around the fullest part of her breasts. Subtract the band size
from the breast and you have cup size. If the difference between
the two is less than 1 inch, then her cup size is AA. 1 inch
equals A. 2 inches equals B. 3 inches equals C. 4 inches equals
D. 5 inches equals DD.
· Unfastening a Bra Tip: I have to get something
off my chest and keep you abreast of the situation. If you are
like a lot of guys when it comes to bras, and you are more likely
to bust a finger than finger a bust when it comes to removing
one of these boobytraps, then this tip is for you. First, some
basic bra knowledge. Most bras fasten in the back, although
some fasten in the front, between the cups. Next, know what
you are dealing with. Borrow one of your ladys bras and
examine the mechanics of the fasteners. Practice fastening it
and unfastening it. Wait until you are alone, sit down on the
edge of your bed or in a chair with your thighs exposed. Now,
wrap the bra around your leg or legs and fasten it with the
hooks facing up. Now practice fastening and unfastening it again.
When you get the hang of it, turn it on your leg so the hooks
are face down and you have to do it without being able to see
what you are doing. Now, you are ready for the next time you
see your lady and it comes time to remove her bra. Be sure to
use two hands. Dont try to impress her with any one-hand
tricks, unless you are very well practiced. Wrap you arms around
her in a hug-like fashion. Grab each side of the bra clasps,
one side with each hand. Fold the two sides together, pushing
on one side and pulling on the other. It should come right open.
Now remove the bra. Your lady will be far more impressed with
a smooth removal than if you try to yank it off or whip it away.
Both:
· According to studies conducted by Masters &
Johnson and The Kinsey Institute, a small percentage of women
can actually have an orgasm from breast stimulation alone.
· Breast sensitivity has nothing to do with their
size. There is no correlation.
· Some experts suggest the nipple may not be the
most sensitive part of the breast. They suggest that the upper
part of the breast from the 9:00 to the 3:00 position may be
more sensitive. See if this holds true for your lady.
· In a Kinsey Institute of 8000 women, only 11%
said they stimulate their own breasts during masturbation.
· Approximately 50% of women have one breast significantly
larger than the other one. Its completely normal.
· The nipples of the breast can be innies
or outies and can point left, right, down, straight
ahead, or even in different directions. You can even have one
innie and one outie.
· A few women (and men, too!) are even born with
an extra nipple.
How
do you stimulate them?
· Bullseye Breast Technique: Ok, this is the bullseye
technique. Now, normally, you want to hit the bullseye, right?
Isn't that how it works? Well, not with this technique. You
want to intentionally work around the bullseye, for this one.
What is the bullseye? Her nipples! So for this technique, start
with your tongue anywhere on her upper body. Kiss and lick all
around the breasts, but don't touch the breasts yet. Keep working
around them, teasing them. When you do get to the breasts, start
at the outside of the breast and lick and kiss all around the
outside, intentionally avoiding her nipple. Keep working your
way from the outside in towards the nipples. By the time you
get there, her nipples will be aching for you! You could also
add an extra teasing element to this one, if you wish. Try sucking
her nipple for 1 second every once in a while before you actually
get to the bullseye. In other words, if you are working the
outer breast area, take a 1 second break to suck her nipple.
Then go right back to the outer breast. Talk about a tease!
Please note that she may physically grab your head in her hands
and move it right to her nipple even before you get there yourself.
Then, you can really tease her by not going to the nipple, or
you can give in and go for it then. It's important to note that
if she actually moves you there, she is *READY*
for you right now! Any further teasing could be agony. Agony
is ok, if that's what you are going for, just know that it is
indeed agony at that point. My philosophy on the matter is:
If she indicates that she wants it right now, I'm going to give
her what she wants! This technique teaches us that like the
ripples that circle out when you throw a rock into a pond, zones
of sensitivity radiate outward from a womans hot spots.
· This is very similar to the above technique,
but you do it with your hands instead of your mouth. This is
teasing touch at its best. Begin touching your ladys breasts
with long, circular strokes, starting at the bottom of her breasts.
Slowly graze her skin with your fingers as you circle the outer
perimeter of her breasts. With each revolution around her breast,
move just a little closer to the center of her breast, spiraling
inward ever so slightly. For every two movements closer to her
breasts, take one small movement outward. Continue with slow
spiraling strokes toward her nipples. As you near the nipple
with one hand, stop and begin the same process with her other
one. Take your time touching her. Make this whole process take
10-15 minutes. When you do finally get to her nipple, she will
be in ecstasy.
· Peppermint Dip Breast Technique: For this technique,
pour some Peppermint Schnapps into your ladys belly button.
Now, dip your tongue into the schnapps and lick one of her nipples.
Dip your tongue back into the Schnapps and lick the other one.
Now lightly blow on the nipples. The cooling effect of the Schnapps
makes for an intense feeling. Try the same thing on her clitoris!
Keep a cool washcloth handy in case the feeling is too intense
for her.
· Breast Fire & Ice Technique: For this technique,
you will need a glass of ice (or something else cold) and a
cup of coffee (or something hot). Take the cold item and put
it in your mouth to make your mouth cold. Now suck on her breasts
with your cold mouth. Do that for a minute or two and then put
the hot item in your mouth to make your mouth hot. Now suck
on her breasts, again. Keep switching back and forth. The different
sensations feel terrific! Be sure to switch it up a bit, too.
In other words, instead of doing hot, then cold, then hot, then
cold, do something like hot, cold, cold, hot, cold, hot, hot.
This way she won't know which one to expect and she will not
be able to prepare herself for what's coming.
· A really soft and gentle way to stimulate your
ladys nipples is to use the inside of your forearm to
rub against them. This is a great contrast to your normal touch
as the inside of your forearm is very soft. You can stimulate
both nipples at the same time using this method, also.
· Breast Warm Breath Technique: For this technique,
breathe a breath of warm air from your mouth right onto her
breasts.
· The Big Suck & Snap Technique: When you
suck the nipple into your mouth, suck as much of the surrounding
breast into your mouth as well, and gently suck and knead it
with your tongue. Keep sucking while you physically move your
head away from her body. You'll have to suck harder and harder
to keep the breast in your mouth. Keep moving your head away
from her body until the breast finally snaps out of your mouth.
· Nipple Graze Technique: Take her nipple into
your mouth and lightly put it between your teeth. Be very, very
gentle and pull your head back, grazing the nipple with your
teeth until it falls out. Be very gentle.
· Breast Altoid Technique: In case you aren't
familiar with Altoids, they are mints that you can buy at nearly
any grocery store. They come in a metal tin and you can get
them in 3 original flavors. The green box is Wintergreen flavored.
They produce a mild result with this technique. The medium red
box is Peppermint flavored. They produce a moderate result.
The dark red box is Cinnamon flavored. They produce a very strong
result with this technique. Use the box that suits your level
of tolerance. I would recommend starting with the green or medium
red box. Take a mint from the box and begin to suck on it in
your mouth for a few seconds, to round off the rough edges.
Now, suck on the breasts with your minty saliva. Get the nipples
nice and wet. Now, blow very lightly on the nipples for a sensational
effect.
· Breast Straw Technique: Take a straw and blow
light, concentrated air on her nipples. Try it on her clit and
labia, too. The straw allows you to be very precise about where
the air hits. It also condenses the air into a smaller space,
thus giving you greater pressure with your precision. Try it
after licking her nipples with Altoids in your mouth, too, but
be careful. That cuts like a knife - at least it feels that
way! WARNING : Be sure to
keep all of your blowing on the outside of the vulva.
Never, ever blow inside the vagina
with a straw or without. Blowing air into the vagina
can cause an air embolism. This can be extremely harmful and
even lethal.
· Areola Tracing Technique: Using your finger
or tongue, trace around her areola (the darkened area, just
outside the nipples) with little circles. Be sure to switch
directions and use varying levels of pressure.
· 5 Finger Grab Technique: This technique works
best if her breast and your hand are lubricated with massage
oil. Rest the palm of your hand over her breast with your fingertips
around the circumference of the breast. As you lift your hand,
let your fingertips caress their way up the sides of the breast
until they are grasping the tip of the nipple. Now pull on the
nipple a little or a lot, depending on your lady's level of
comfort and arousal.
· Penis Rub Technique: Some women find it arousing
when a man caresses her nipples with the head of his penis.
If he pulls apart the opening of his penis, he can sometimes
stick the tip of her erect nipple into it.
· Nipple Tease & Twirl Technique: Lube the
tips of the thumb and index finger of your dominant hand. Now
place them directly across from each other on opposite ends
of the outer areola. Start at the outer part of the areola and
move your finger and thumb toward each other. As they reach
the nipple, roll the nipple in a twirling motion between your
fingertip and the tip of your thumb. Now, repeat the technique
starting at a different spot on the outside of the areola. This
will tease the nipple by creating anticipation and desire.
· Baby Suckle Technique: For this sucking technique,
take her nipple area in you mouth and using your mouth and tongue,
suck on her using a technique like a baby would use - a suckling
action.
· Clothespin Technique: This technique is for
those who are curious about trying something a little on the
rough side. Buy several clothespins (the kind that clamp shut)
from an arts and crafts store. Now, clamp them to your ladys
breasts. Be very careful and very gentle. She may really like
the sensation. She also may not.
· Double Nipple Lick: If your ladys breasts
are large enough, push them together so you can lick/stimulate
both nipples at the same time.
· Trap the Nipple Technique: When you lick her
nipple with your tongue, the nipple moves back and forth with
your tongue and she therefore loses some of the sensation. Use
your thumb and forefinger to trap the nipple and
keep it from moving. Now lick it again and see the difference.
· Nipple Crescent Technique: Take one of her nipples
into your mouth. Arch your head back just slightly, to raise
the nipple. Now, use your tongue in a crescent pattern on the
bottom side of her nipple.
· Nippy Nippy Shake Technique: Grab her nipple
in between your thumb and forefinger and then shake. Be very
careful, as some women are much more sensitive than others are
in this regard.
· Hand Warmer Technique: Place your unlubricated
hands palm to palm in front of you so that your finger are pointing
away from you. Now rub your hands back and forth against each
other to create friction, and thus heat. Do this for a few seconds
and then use your heated hands to grasp her breasts. You can
use this technique on other parts of her body, also. The longer
and harder you rub your hands together, the warmer your hands
will become.
· Rope Halter Top Technique: Have your lady raise
her arms and lock them behind her head. Using a 1/4 inch or
3/16 inch rope, ribbon, leather thong, saran wrap, or bandage
wrap, wrap the material snugly around your lady, from her front
to her back, going completely around her body. Start underneath
the breasts and continue upwards until the breasts are completely
bound by rope. She should look like she is wearing a rope halter
top. Make the ropes snug, but not uncomfortable. Be sure to
monitor the color and sensation in the breasts on a regular
basis. Dont keep her breasts bound for extended lengths
of time. When you release the ropes, she will experience an
increase in breast sensation as the feeling comes back to her
breasts. She should be extra sensitive at this time. Try sucking
her breasts or using some of your other favorite breast techniques
at this time.
· Rope Breast Wrap Technique: This is similar
to the above technique, but instead of wrapping the rope around
both breasts, like a halter top, we are going to wrap the rope
around each breast individually. Whereas in the above technique,
the rope goes around her back to bind her breasts and make them
flat, in this technique, the rope wont go behind her back
at all. Have your lady raise her arms and lock them behind her
head. Using a 1/4 inch or 3/16 inch rope, ribbon, leather thong,
saran wrap, or bandage wrap, wrap the material snugly around
each of your ladys breasts individually, starting underneath
the breasts and continuing in a clockwise fashion around the
breast until the breast is completely bound by rope. Make the
ropes snug, but not uncomfortable. Be sure to monitor the color
and sensation in the breasts on a regular basis. Dont
keep her breasts bound for extended lengths of time. When you
release the ropes, she will experience an increase in breast
sensation as the feeling comes back to her breasts. She should
be extra sensitive at this time. Try sucking her breasts or
using some of your other favorite breast techniques at this
time. This technique works well with larger breasts.
· Nipple Stimulation Idea: One day, while trying
to think of some new ways to stimulate nipples, I realized that
a nipple looks a bit like the glans (head) of a clitoris. So,
the idea struck me that almost anything you can do to a clitoris,
you can do to a nipple, as well. Try some of your favorite clitoral
techniques on her nipples.
· Make Your Own Nipple Chain Tip: Have you ever
tried using a nipple
chain during your lovemaking? Its a small chain or
string that fastens to each nipple by a slipknot at each end
of the string. During lovemaking, you can stimulate each nipple
by just giving the chain a small tug. If you would like to try
it out before you buy one, then why not make your own. You just
need a piece of string thats all. Take your string
and tie a slipknot at each end. You might have to experiment
with the overall length to get it just the way you want it.
Now, fasten the string to your ladys erect nipples with
the slipknots and you are ready to go. Dont do this for
too long, though - no more than half an hour. Be sure to remove
it at once if there is any pain or discomfort.
Common
Terms and Slang References: bosoms;
bust; mammaries; mammary glands; teats; assets; baps; bazookas;
bazoombas; boobs; boobies; cans; dirty pillows; fun bags; hooters;
jubblies; jugs; knockers; melons; rack; sweater meat; tits;
titties