
So you finally decided to take the plunge and join a personals
website, good for you. Now if you're like most people you'll
be sat there staring at the profile and ad form and wondering
just what should you write. I know from experience that
those profiles can be a bitch to write at worst, partly
because many of us myself included have difficulty writing
about ourselves. With that in mind below I've listed some
tips and hints I wrote this rough guide to writing effective
personal ads.
Selling yourself: Think about it when you write a
personal ad selling yourself is exactly what you are doing.
In order to do that you need to stand out from the crowd.
I know how hard it can be to achieve that and I've spent
many hours perfecting my profile on various sites in order
to get the best results and more importantly the type of
people I want to answer my ads to take notice of them.
Take
a look at other profiles and find a few that grab your attention,
then sit down and work out why and how they grabbed you and
made you read more. Maybe they were funny, maybe it was the
honesty you found good but whatever the reason they grabbed
you and pulled you in. Try and identify that element that
pulled you in and use it in your own ad.
The
Basics
Be Honest: This maybe the Internet but you are looking
to actually meet someone from this ad so be honest from the
start. If you use a photo use a current one for example. If
you're 36 then say so, if you really are a brain surgeon then
fine but if not don't go there. You may think you're life
is boring and no one will want you but embellishing the truth
or simply lying will get you nowhere.
Choosing A Handle Or Nick: Many websites give you the
opportunity to choose your own handle, nick/name. Think about
your choice before you make it. Which of these sounds more
enticing and gives the viewer the most information for example:
Dave5900000
Kansas Toto
Your Ad Title: Again this is something you should give
some serious thought to as on many sites as you browse this
is all people see before they click through to read your actual
profile/ad. Make it simple, catchy but descriptive. For example
if I lived in Kansas and was male I might title an ad:
Kanas Man looking for his Dorothy.
Or I could take it a step further and Use the nick Kansas
Toto and make my title read: Lost in Kansas looking for my
Dorothy. I'm sure you're getting the idea by now. By choosing
a nick that you can play with and incorporate into your title
you are more likely to grab potential partners attention and
that's what the purpose of a good ad is.
The
Ad Itself:
Use a Spellchecker!: Sounds simple when I write it
but you'd be surprised at the amount of ads I've seen with
basic spelling mistakes. Don't forget the first thing I wrote
about here this is about selling yourself. So you didn't get
an Yale education but that doesn't mean you can't spell. Impressions
count and your ad is the first impression someone will have
of you.
Never write in all caps: It's annoying to read and in Internet
speak it implies your shouting. That maybe fine in a crowded
night club but in the world of personnel's it's annoying.
POST
A PHOTO: Statistics show that an ad with a photo is 80%
more likely to get a response. A photo that shows you relaxed
and having fun, no matter what you look like, is even better.
Don't use a photo that's 10 years old, people want to see
what you look like now. Don't stress about your looks... attraction
is about more than looks and it's why you're spending time
writing your ad.
You're More Than Your Body: Many personal sites allow
you space to list your physical attributes and most people
will glance through them, although if you've added a photo
their really is no need to. While looks are to some extent
important to many of us when we are looking for a potential
partner, far more important is the personality behind those
stats.
Concentrate on telling potential respondents about you rather
than the color of your hair or eyes. Many ads limit the amount
of lines you have to use so make the most of what you have.
Have you ever really dated someone just for their eye color?
OK, maybe you have spectacular eyeballs. But ads tend to reel
off personal stats... and then stop there, as though there
was nothing but a body. Talk about who you are first, and
what you look like at the end. Want to know the number one
thing surveyed women look for in a guy? A sense of humor.
Be
Positive. Your ad is not the place to list all the things
that drove you nuts about your ex and how you won't put up
with that again. Don't list what you don't want... discuss
what you DO want. Be creative turn what could be considered
faults with a little lateral thinking into positives. So you're
a workaholic, how about, "life keeps me busy so my personal
time is really special. "
Favorite
Things: Rather than making a breathtaking list of all
your favorite things, concentrate on one or two and really
play them up. If for example you enjoy hiking, use it to your
advantage and incorporate it into your main ad. "Would
love to meet partner who shares my love of walking,"
for example, although I'm sure you can do far better than
that!
General
Rules: NEVER, NEVER, EVER include
your address, phone number or last name in a personal ad.
This might seem like common sense but I've seen people include
this info in personnal's before. Some personal sites have
rules that ask you not to post e-mail address or web addresses,
make sure you follow the sites guide lines. Your ad will be
removed and that's a waste when you've spent so much time
writing it. In general read the sites guidelines and you'll
be fine.
Which reminds me, keep a copy of any ad you write, expecially
if you're using web sites to advertsie. I know from experience
servers crash and data gets lost.
Above
all remember to be yourself when you write your ad. You may
think you're boring but I'm willing to bet that with a little
thought you can bring out your best qualities and show a potential
partner that you have something unique to offer them: Yourself!
Below
I've listed some personal websites I've either used myself
or have been recommended to me by friends. Check them out
and apply the above and who knows where it might lead -))
Sexyads.com
Clitical
Dating.Com
Swingingcommunity.com