Wintertime is approaching quickly and the temperatures are plummeting drastically! Ladies, now is a great time to turn up the temperature in your bedroom! The following tips, tricks, and techniques are certain to tease, tantalize, and tempt you man. Kick it up a notch by homing in on the things that men are hardwired to respond to.

1. Men are programmed to be protectors of our ladies. We want you to feel safe when you are with us. To make your man feel strong and macho, say something like, “I feel like nothing can harm me when I’m with you.” And if you ever find yourself in a threatening situation, when all is said and done, tell him you weren’t scared because you were with him. We like that. It makes us feel like Superman.

2. Men love having something special to look forward to, especially when it’s something sexual. Give your man a call at work and tell him what you want to do to him that night. Be explicit. I’ll bet he doesn’t work late that night. He should come home ready for you and full of desire as he's had all day to think about it.

3. Men love to know that you are thinking about being sexual with us. Nowadays, almost everyone has access to a cellular phone, pager, or email. A lot of these phones and pagers are capable of handling instant text messages. Send your man a series of 5-10 messages telling him how much you want him. Wait 15 minutes or so between messages. Always end each message leaving him wanting more. Anticipation is a powerful tool. Here is an example of the first few messages you could leave. Use your imagination for the remaining messages and be careful to send the messages during a time when he will not be inconvenienced by them (during an important business meeting, etc…).

MESSAGE 1: “My hands are on your face to kiss you. My hands travel along your neck, shoulders, arms, and waist. I pull you close to me, kissing... (more later).”

MESSAGE 2: “Still kissing you, I slowly lower myself to my knees, kissing your lips, chin, neck, chest, and stomach. My hands are on your butt. Now, on my knees, I begin to undo your pants…”

4. Men love surprises, especially those of a sexual nature. Buy him a tie while you are out shopping. Call him at work and tell him you bought him a gift today and you can’t wait to give it to him. Don’t tell him what it is, though. When he gets home, be wearing his tie, with nothing else. Please don’t be too upset if he doesn’t pay too much attention to the tie. That’s a good thing, right? I’ll bet he’ll wear it to work tomorrow, though, along with a huge smile on his face.

5. Men LOVE physical contact, so while at dinner, don't ask him to pass the salt. Instead, lean across your man to grab it - and let your hair brush his hand while your breasts purposefully press his arm. Need his car keys? Need money for the gum-ball machine? Don't ask politely - face him hip-to-hip, reach your hand into his pocket, dig deep while looking him straight in the eye, and slowly remove the goods. Never underestimate the titillating power of touch. It's so simple. Just by stimulating his nerve endings, you create a positive physical connection. And these moves also pack a subtle "subtext" punch: THEY BREAK DOWN A MAJOR INTIMACY BARRIER. I think that by breaking down these boundaries, you’re showing him that you're up front about your desire to get close. And, indicating your interest in contact might just leave you man panting.

6. Men love to be teased - especially when we know it will lead to great sex. Wanna drive your man wild? When you are out with him, say at a restaurant or the movies, go to the restroom and remove your panties. When you get back, hand them to your man and whisper that you want him. Don’t do this during a good movie, though. Chances are, you won’t be around to watch much more after you do this.

7. Men love it when our ladies are a little naughty. Ladies, on a dinner outing with your partner, wear a dress. While he isn’t looking, sneak a finger inside you panties and into your vagina, capturing some of your vaginal juices on your finger. Now, rub your finger on his upper lip for him to smell. That will create a lot of desire, as you will have to race back home before you can make love. OR, maybe you won't make it all the way home before you make love. Even better! Either way, I’ll bet you won’t be in the restaurant too long after you do this, so maybe it’s best to wait until late into the dinner. Or, if you are feeling especially teasing, do it after you order your food, so you can’t leave and have to wait.

8. Men love spontaneity. Let’s face it - you aren’t going to surprise your man if you suggest making love on a Saturday evening as the two of you are climbing into bed for the night. But you will surprise him if you can catch him unaware. Try cuddling him from behind while he is washing the car, working in the garden, etc… Invite him to bed, then.

9. Men love nakedness. Sleep in the nude! That just sends out all kinds of sexual electricity. It’s so intimate - with nothing between you. It’s a great way to feel comfortable in your skin together and to keep the passion alive in your relationship. Couples who sleep naked have more sex than those who don’t.

10. Men have a very special connection to our penises. To make him feel great about his penis, why not nickname it. Choose a name that is commanding and powerful. “King Kong”, “Thunderbolt”, or “Cockasaurus” would be great choices. Giving his penis a powerful nickname will definitely boost his sexual ego and make him feel terrific about his ability to please you.

11. Men are visually stimulated. Ladies, don’t shut the bathroom door when you are dressing or undressing. Men are visual creatures. Let him see you naked as often as you get the chance. Perform as much of your morning routine as you can while naked. Next, put on your top, remaining bottomless. Or sometimes do the opposite and put on your bottoms, remaining topless. Take a moment to comb your hair before you put anything else on. It's a sight he won't forget. It’s like a reverse striptease. Save getting dressed for the last minute. Let him watch you dress and undress.

12. Men love sexy underwear. My friend Mandy suggests, “Invest in beautiful lingerie. Always wear it. Get used to it. Men love beautiful lingerie - sexy bras, matching sexy panties. Throw all of your old stuff out. Make this your new rule. Go without buying a new outfit, if you have to. Invest in the sexy undies. They will drive him crazy. You will benefit from this effort, also. You will begin to see yourself as more sexual and sensual.”

13. Men love enthusiasm in the bedroom. Instead of just scooting between your man’s legs to give him oral sex, push his legs apart and rest them over your shoulders. Then look him straight in the eye as you give him energetic oral sex. Seeing that you are enthusiastic and enjoying what you are doing to him really adds to the experience.

14. Men love trying out new experiences. Brush your teeth and spit out the excess toothpaste, but don’t rinse. Now please your man orally for that minty-clean feeling. You can also coat his testicles with toothpaste before giving him oral sex. This will produce a nice heat sensation that will leave him squirming - and if you lick up all the remaining toothpaste when you are done, it will help prevent cavities, too! Pepsodent and Close-Up both seem to have somewhat of a cult following.

15. Men love great orgasms. Here’s how to help him have one. Have your man lie flat on his back. Pleasure him orally or manually. Tell him that when he reaches the point of no return and starts his orgasm, he should raise his upper body up and hold it as if doing a stomach crunch. He should only raise his body half way - around a 45 degree angle and hold it as long as he can throughout the orgasm. The tightened muscles will intensify his orgasm greatly.

16. Men love eager participation in the bedroom. Instead of just lying on your back waiting for your guy to enter you, lie on your back and spread your legs centerfold-style for him while you wait for him to enter you. He’ll really enjoy the view.

17. Men love to be touched during sex, too. During missionary style intercourse, gently scratch his butt, grab it, knead it, and move his cheeks in sensuous circles. It’s a sensation he probably has never been treated to.

18. Men love to know that what we are doing in the bedroom is working for you. We really do want to please you, so during sex, tell him how good he feels inside you. We like the ego boost.

19. Men love it when you talk dirty to us, so whisper something super naughty in his ear just as he is about to climax - maybe a super naughty compliment.

20. Men love to think they are good lovers, so after a good sex session, tell him exactly what it was about the sex that was so good for you. For example, “I just love the way you kept a steady pace with your tongue on my clit and then grabbed my breasts at the moment my orgasm started. You are such a great lover.” This serves two purposes. It’s positive reinforcement to let him know what worked for you. Now he’ll likely remember it for next time. It also boosts his ego when you do this for him. Make sure he feels like the great lover that you think he is.

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