Since before most of us men even hit puberty, we have been fascinated and captivated by the female form.

Unfortunately, most of us are not much closer now to understanding the intricacies of the female body than we were way back then. In my research for this article, I spoke to some of my friends to see what they know. Even some of my most experienced friends were a bit unclear about certain details of the female anatomy. For most of us, a woman’s body is still shrouded in mystery.

It’s no wonder we don’t know much about the female body. We’ve been conditioned to have sex in the dark - under the sheets, so unless we’ve had a long-term sexual relationship, we probably don’t know too much about the female body. Even being in a long-term relationship where we are comfortable with each other doesn’t guarantee that we know a lot, though. Most of us have never had the pleasure of really investigating a woman’s genitals up close and personal. I was surprised to learn about the number of men who cannot identify a clitoris. I was completely shocked when I learned that many women cannot identify their own clitoris, either! In one study of women, 28% had never examined their own vulvas in a mirror.

Even medical science doesn’t know a lot about the female body and sexual response. In the August 22, 2003 edition of 20/20 on ABC, an expert from an OB/GYN organization said we are practically in the dark ages when it comes to female sexuality, in terms of what we know compared to other areas of medicine. She claims on a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being the most), we are at about a 2. We still have a lot to learn.

Many people (especially men) hate to admit we don’t know something, especially when it comes to sex. Well, don’t be too hard on yourself. How are we supposed to know this stuff? Where do we really learn about the female body? Who teaches us? Nobody does! Most of us men learn about the female body from pictures of naked women that one of our friends stole from his dad’s porno stash. But, what do we really learn? Many of the really important parts of the vulva are hidden within the fleshy folds - and there are no accompanying tutorials or anything. Maybe some of us have seen line drawings in sex education text books that don’t look anything like real vulvas. Others of us gather misinformation from our friends. Nobody teaches us the real facts about the female body and how to pleasure it when we are younger because we aren’t supposed to have sex or talk about it. Yet one day, we are supposed to just somehow magically know about all of the different female body parts - what they are called, where they are located, what they do, and how to bring them pleasure. And forget about asking someone for help - once we reach a certain age, our inquisitiveness becomes a liability. It’s no longer “cool” to ask questions. Doing so will prove to your friends that you are not very experienced, out of the loop, a virgin, or an idiot, so most of us pretend we know it all. We fake it. Well, now is the time to stop faking it and realize that if you want to learn to be a great lover to your partner, you have to know the location and functions of the body parts you are dealing with.

Women’s bodies come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. All are different and can respond differently to the same stimulation. The following is a bit graphic, but it reinforces my point about individualism. I read about a study where they took 10 female corpses and dissected them to study sexual nerve endings. Out of the 10 females, no two were exactly alike. They all had different numbers and concentrations of nerve endings in the breasts and genital region. This could explain why although something feels nice and works for one woman, it isn’t a guarantee that all women will find it equally stimulating. Women aren’t all made from the same cookie-cutter mold.

Let’s examine the female body parts that are commonly associated with sexual activity. I won’t be discussing internal organs that are more reproductive in nature rather than sexual, as you can get that information from any anatomy textbook and it isn’t the focus of our discussion. We will take a look at each body part, talk about the important facts, and as usual, I promise to throw in some of my favorite tips, tricks, techniques, facts, ideas, and games to keep you reading and give you something to look forward to. It will be a fun, educational, and experimental journey.

Before we get to the “obvious” sexual body parts, I think it’s important to note that a woman has more parts to her body than just her two breasts and her vulva. There are many other areas of her body. Physical contact causes a surge of feel-good brain chemicals, so spend some time touching her and getting to know her body without touching her breasts or vulva for awhile. She will appreciate the attention and will know that you are a man who truly knows how to please a woman.

Icing Tip:
Explore you lady’s whole body. Everything can be an erogenous zone. Some of her body parts have probably been touched less than a leprous nun in solitary confinement due to the fact that a lot of men just go right for the breasts and the vulva and forget about everything else. Pay special attention to the following sensual places on her body that are often ignored. Stimulate her earlobes, the base of her neck, her inner thighs, the inside of her elbows, the bottoms of her feet, the skin under and to the sides of her breasts, the soft area of skin behind her ear, the palms of her hands, her belly button, the backs of her knees, her arm pits, the bridge of her nose, her eyelids, and her lower back. Gently kiss her fingertips. Fingers and toes can be incredibly sensual. Sucking them can be pretty intense. Not everything will do it for every woman. Explore every inch of your lady’s body. If you find a spot she likes, mark it with icing, then come back later and lick all the icing off the different spots.

Breasts:
Just like most other body parts, breasts come in many different sizes, shapes, and colors. They can be the same size and shape, but oftentimes, one breast may look a little different than the other. That’s perfectly normal. The nipples of the breast can be “innies” or “outies” and can point left, right, down, straight ahead, or even in different directions. A few women (and men, too!) are even born with an extra nipple. The breasts and nipples may enlarge in the days prior to a woman’s period and may grow extra sensitive during this time. The circular area surrounding the nipple is called the areola. It is filled with nerve endings and is often very sensitive. If you look close, you may see little bumps around the perimeter of the areola. These are hair follicles and can also be very sensitive. Yes, unlike the airbrushed supermodel image engraved in your brain, real women can have hair on their breasts. Some of these women shave the hair off and some don’t.

Breast Stimulation Duration Tip:
As fascinated as we seem to be with the female breasts, we generally tend to spend relatively little time stimulating them during our lovemaking. If your lady responds positively to breast stimulation, then try spending at least 20-30 minutes on her breasts before you move on to her vulva. She will love you for it. The average guy spends only 2-3 minutes per breast during a whole sexual encounter - kind of like they are just passing through on the way down, and if you are having a quickie, that's ok. But, now you are going to show her that you are a man who not only appreciates her breasts, but also a man who see her breasts as a destination rather than somewhere you stop on the way down. You are going to show her you are a man who completely enjoys to and knows how to make love to a woman and fulfill her sexual desires.

Breast Stimulation Enjoyment Tip:
According to one study, only about 50% of women actually enjoy breast stimulation. The rest of the women tolerate it because their partners don’t know they don’t like it. Your best bet is to communicate with your lady to see what she likes.

Breast Orgasm Fact:
According to studies conducted by Masters & Johnson and The Kinsey Institute, a small percentage of women can actually have an orgasm from breast stimulation.

Nipple Fact:
It's been estimated that one out of every two hundred women is born with an extra nipple.

Breast Size Tip:
Approximately 50% of women have one breast significantly larger than the other one. It’s completely normal.

Fondling Tip:
Did you know that a lot of women have gone to the doctor because of lumps their sex partner discovered while playing with their breasts? It’s true, so be sure to pay attention while fondling your lady’s breasts. Look for bumps, knots, or irregularities.

Understanding Bra Size Tip:
Ok, this has little to do with sex, but it’s something that most men don’t understand, so I thought I’d take a minute to explain how it works. A bra’s cup size is just the difference between a lady’s breast size and her band size. Let me explain. A lady measures twice. First around the flat part of her chest just under her breasts to which she adds 5 inches to get band size. Then she measures around the fullest part of her breasts. Subtract the band size from the breast and you have cup size. If the difference between the two is less than 1 inch, then her cup size is AA. 1 inch equals A. 2 inches equals B. 3 inches equals C. 4 inches equals D. 5 inches equals DD.

Breast Sensitivity Tip:
Some experts suggest the nipple may not be the most sensitive part of the breast. They suggest that the upper part of the breast from the 9:00 to the 3:00 position may be more sensitive. See if this holds true for your lady.

Peppermint Dip Breast Technique:
For this technique, pour some Peppermint Schnapps into your lady’s belly button. Now, dip your tongue into the schnapps and lick one of her nipples. Dip your tongue back into the Schnapps and lick the other one. Now lightly blow on the nipples. The cooling effect of the Schnapps makes for an intense feeling. Try the same thing on her clitoris!

Forearm Play Technique:
A really soft and gentle way to stimulate your lady’s nipples is to use the inside of your forearm to rub against them. This is a great contrast to your normal touch as the inside of your forearm is very soft. You can stimulate both nipples at the same time using this method, also.

The Vulva:
The vulva is the term that refers to all of the woman’s externally visible genitalia. Many people commonly make the mistake of referring to the vulva as the vagina, but the vagina is actually just the internal canal. Everything you can see from the outside is referred to as the vulva. As a general rule, the areas of the vulva that are hairless seem to be more sensitive than the areas covered by hair.

Vulva Variety Book:
Vulvas vary in appearance from one lady to the next. No two are exactly alike. Joanie Blank has a book out called ‘Femalia’ that showcases the variety in vulva appearance. It contains close up shots of many different vulvas, so you can get an idea of how they vary and can learn to appreciate their uniqueness.

The Mons Veneris:
The mons veneris is also sometimes referred to as the mons pubis, pubic mound, the mound of venus, or simply the mons. This is the area of fatty tissue located below the abdomen, but above the labia, that covers the pubic bone and is generally covered with pubic hair (unless she has shaved it). The mons cushions the pubic bone from the impact of intercourse and can be sexually sensitive in some women.

Pubic Hair Fact:
It is believed that the purpose of pubic hair on the mons is to trap the scents released by the secretions in the pubic region. These secretions serve as an erotic stimulus to the opposite sex.

Pubic Shaving Fact:
33% of men & 50% of women have shaved their pubic hair for a sexual reason.

Stray Hair Tip:
If you're worried about stray pubic hairs in your mouth during oral sex, do a stroking move with your hand through her pubic hair. She will take it as a caressing move, when in actuality, you are not only caressing her, you are also grooming her and removing loose hairs.

Mons Stimulation Ideas:
You can stimulate the mons in many ways. Try gently tugging on her hair, try lightly scratching the skin of the mons, try tapping on the mons, and try rubbing it. Try using your wrist to tease her pubic hair. These ideas aren’t likely to induce any earth-shaking orgasms, but it may feel nice to your lady. Try it and see!

A Hair Raising Experience Technique:
For this one, rest your hand on her body and grab a handful of pubic hair. Now, holding her hair, move your hand up, down, back, and forth. You can raise the intensity of this one until you are actually rocking her back and forth. You may try this while your tongue is on her clitoris. Rock her back and forth so that your tongue brushes up and down her clit. This technique may be a bit painful for some people, so be careful, be sensitive, be gentle, and be aware of the fact that she may not enjoy it. It should maybe be saved for those times when your lady is already very aroused and looking for something a little on the rough side.

The Clitoral Hood, Glands And Shaft:
The head of the clitoris, or clitoral glans, is the small pea-sized bud of smooth, spongy, erectile tissue located at the top of the labia minora. It is covered, either partially or completely, by the clitoral hood, a flap of skin that looks like a hood over a little head. The clitoral hood protects the highly sensitive glans. During sexual arousal, the head of the clitoris may become erect and extend while the clitoral hood may retract to make the clitoral glans more accessible.

But, the visible head of the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. The term "iceberg" has become part of our daily speech as one often hears the phrase: "the tip of the iceberg", which refers to the fact that as much as seven-eighths of the iceberg's mass is under water, leaving only a small portion exposed. The clitoris is very much like an iceberg in that only the small glans is visible to us, but it actually extends into the body. The entire clitoris resembles a four-inch wishbone. It extends from the external and visible pea-sized tip, up the shaft and into the body. The legs of the clitoris inside the body split off like those of a wishbone onto either side of the vaginal walls.

The clitoris is packed with 8000 nerve endings - moreso than any other body part, male or female. That’s twice as many nerve endings as the entire penis. It is also the only organ in the human body that has no other known purpose other than producing sexual pleasure. This is the area of the vulva that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation. Be sure you become very familiar with it.

The average clitoral glans is about one-quarter of an inch in diameter and the body of the clitoris is about three-quarters of an inch in length. However, the visible portion of the clitoris of some girls and women can measure up to about 2 1/2 inches in length and nearly 1 inch in diameter. When they are of this size, they look similar to a small penis. In fact, the penis and clitoris are made up of the same tissues and develop from the same fetal structure. So, they vary in size, from woman to woman, much like women's breasts or a man's penis.

Buffer Technique:
This is a good one for the ladies who have an extra sensitive clitoris and can’t stand direct clitoral stimulation. Gently push and pull on the clitoral hood and labia rather than stimulating the clitoris directly. Using the hood and lips as a buffer can provide pleasing stimulation without painful friction.

Clitoral Sensitivity Tip:
Some experts claim that the most sensitive part of the clitoral glans is the upper-left quadrant (from her perspective). From your perspective, that would be the upper-right quadrant from the 12:00 position to the 3:00 position (on our imaginary clitoral clock). Try touching her or licking her there.

Another Clitoral Sensitivity Tip:
Did you know that sometimes women are more sensitive on one side of their clitoris than the other? Well, now you do. Let’s find out if this holds true for your lady, and if so, which side is her more sensitive side. When your lady is ready for clitoral stimulation, lick up and down the left side of the clitoris. Do this for 30 seconds or so and then lick up and down the right side. Ask her which side, if any, is more sensitive. Once you find out, though, be sure not to neglect the less sensitive side.

Expose the Clitoris Trick:
This is a handy trick to easily expose the clitoris for better direct stimulation. Place the heel of your palm on hers mons (the pubic mound where most of her pubic hair is located) and push up towards her belly button. This will stretch the clitoral hood and expose her clitoris for oral or manual stimulation.

Orgasm Fact:
Only 30% of women can orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation, so become very familiar with the clitoris.

Clitoral Shaft Stroking Technique:
A little known fact about the clitoris is that it has a shaft and extends a few inches into the body. I want you to view the head of the clitoris like the head of a tiny penis. If you do that, then you will know right where to find the shaft of the clitoris. Take the shaft in between your lubed index finger and thumb and GENTLY stroke it up and down like you are stroking the shaft of a little penis. (Note: We are only viewing it as a penis so you know where to find the shaft. The clitoris is NOT a penis, so please be gentle and don’t treat it like one.)

Clitoral Circles Technique:
Run little circles around her clitoral glans with your lubed index finger. Be sure to go in both directions.

Knuckle Rocker Technique:
For this technique, take your dominant hand and make a vertical fist (with your thumb facing up). The second knuckle of each of your fingers (the same knuckles you use to knock on a door) will now be lined up. Make sure your knuckles are lubed and then move your knuckles up and down over her clitoral glans by rocking your wrist back and forth vertically.

Butterfly Flutter Technique:
For this technique, extend the lubed index finger of your dominant hand. Now, lightly flick just the tip of it back and forth either vertically or horizontally over her clitoral glans. Flick it really fast like a very quick butterfly flapping it's wings.

Labia Majora:
The labia majora are the fat, fleshy outer-most lips of the vulva, sometimes just simply referred to as the outer lips. They run along the insides of your lady’s legs starting near the bottom of the mons and running downward to the top of her perineum (the area between her anus and vaginal opening). The outer lips can be more or less pronounced in different ladies and they are usually covered in pubic hair. They are sensitive to touch and they contain several oil and sweat glands that can produce a scent that many find sexually arousing.

Outer Labia Stroking Technique:
Have your lady lie down on her back with her legs open for you. Now, using your lubed thumb and forefinger, pinch her outer labia together and stroke them up and down.

Tour de Labia Technique:
Using the lubed tip of your index finger, trace around your lady’s inner and outer labia. Keep your finger moving.

Paintbrush Technique:
Use a camel hair paintbrush, available at any art store, and brush it all over your lady’s body. Be sure to brush it against her inner thighs, nipples, clitoris, and her vaginal lips. This one works well if you blindfold her first, so she doesn’t know what to expect and where you plan to touch her next.

Labia Minora:
The labia minora are the inner lips - two thin stretches of tissue that lie to the inside of the labia majora, or outer lips. The appearance of the inner lips can vary greatly from vulva to vulva. They range from tiny, thin lips that lie within the outer lips and are barely visible to large lips that protrude. The inner lips fold and protect the vagina, the urethra, and the clitoris. At the top, they attach either to the bottom of the clitoral glans itself or to the clitoral hood on either side of the glans. They come in many different shapes, sizes, and colors. Some are thick, some are thin. Some are large, some are small. Some look like butterfly wings, angel wings, or the petals of a flower. Some are symmetrical and some are not. All of them are hairless and pretty sensitive to touch for most women. When a lady becomes sexually aroused, the inner lips fill with blood, becoming plump, and their color will change to deeper hues of red, purple, or brown, due to the increased flow of blood.

Indirect Stimulation Tip:
For many ladies, when you stimulate her inner lips, you are also indirectly stimulating her clitoris, as they are usually connected.

Inner Labia Massage Technique:
Take one of your lady’s inner lips between your lubed thumb and forefinger. Massage the lip by rubbing your finger and thumb together through her lip. Massage up and down each of her inner lips.

Tap Dancing Technique:
Try tapping your fingers on your lady’s vaginal lips and clitoris. Be sure to try our different levels of pressure to see which she prefers.

Urethral Opening:
The urethral opening, or urinary opening, is located between the clitoral glans and the vaginal opening. It’s exact location varies from lady to lady and may or may not be easily visible. Although it’s main purpose is to serve as the passageway for urine expulsion from the body, there are sexual rumors concerning this area.

Urethral Opening Tip:
The little dome of tissue that surrounds the urinary opening has sometimes been compared to the head of a penis. Your lady may enjoy it of you stimulate this area. A medical university study shows that it may be possible in some ladies to trigger an orgasm by pressing this area, too.

Vagina Opening:
The vaginal opening, sometimes referred to as the introitus, is visible when you open your lady’s inner labia. It is located near the bottom of the vulva. It will look different on different ladies and may or may not contain a hymen, a thin membrane that covers the vaginal opening. Although the hymen is generally associated with virginity, the absence of a hymen doesn’t guarantee that the lady is not a virgin, as the hymen is very thin and can be torn by rigorous exercise or the insertion of a tampon. Some vaginal openings are puckered a little or a lot. You may or may not be able to see the vaginal canal. The vaginal sphincter muscle is located right at the entrance of the vagina. It is strong and sensitive and can constrict in powerful contractions. At either side of the vaginal opening are glands, which produce small amounts of lubrication to keep the inner labia moist during sexual arousal. Further in are the glands that secrete lubrication for the length of the vaginal canal.

Temple Gate Tickle & Tease Technique:
With your index finger, tickle and tease your lady’s vaginal opening as lightly as possible. Make her hungry for your touch.

Vagina:
The vagina is the internal passageway that serves as the birth canal and the receptacle for the penis during intercourse. It leads to the reproductive organs in the woman’s body. The vagina extends from the vaginal opening to the cervix (the opening to the uterus). The average vagina is around three inches long, but may be a bit longer in women who have given birth. The average vaginal length may seem shallow in relation to the average penis length, but during sexual arousal it expands, extending the length of the vagina to accommodate almost any size penis.

Vaginal Walls Fact:
The walls of the vagina are very elastic and actually collapse against each other (like a fire hose) in the vagina’s non-aroused state.

Vaginal Nerve Endings Fact:
2/3 of the nerve endings in the vagina are located in the first 1/3 of the vagina, so focus much of your attention there, when stimulating the inside of the vagina.

Vaginal Acidity Fact:
The vagina is fairly acidic, with the average vagina rating a 4.0 to 5.0 on the pH scale.
COMPARE THAT TO:
Battery Acid: 1.0
Limes: 1.3 - 2.0
Lemons: 2.2 - 2.4
Oranges: 3.0 - 4.0
Beer: 4.0 - 5.0
Beans: 5.0 - 6.0
Milk (Cow): 6.4 - 6.8
Crackers: 7.0 - 8.5
Milk of Magnesia: 10.5

I’m a bit silly, so I always like to draw attention to the fact that 2 of men’s favorite things, the vagina and beer, have the same pH value!

G-SPOT:
Oh, the elusive G-Spot! Does it exist or doesn't it? I'm here to tell you that it *DOES* exist! Here’s how to find it.

Locate the G-Spot Tip:
The location of the G-Spot can vary from lady to lady, with some having theirs closer to the entrance of the vagina and some having theirs farther back, but just follow this technique and you can’t go wrong. It is best to do this in a highly aroused state. It can be difficult to find when not aroused, as it is usually a small area that becomes quite enlarged during arousal. Take a lubed finger, whichever is most comfortable. Turn your palm up. Now insert the finger barely inside the vagina, staying on the "ceiling" of the vagina. Now very slowly move the finger deeper into the vagina, being sure to stay against the "ceiling". You will soon find the pubic bone. You can't miss it. Once you find the pubic bone, move back just a little bit farther. Again, be sure to stay on the "ceiling". Move just behind the pubic bone and feel around for a small area about the size of a bean, or so. It has a different texture than the surrounding area. I like to describe the texture as being similar to corduroy, as it has ridges. I have also heard it described as feeling spongy. That will be the G-spot.

G-Spot Stimulation Tip:
Try various means of stimulating the G-Spot. Try rubbing little circles, try moving your finger back and forth (like you are telling someone to "come here"), try pushing against it, and try tapping on it. Be sure to get your lady's feedback to see which method she prefers.

G-Spot Reaction Tip:
Some ladies are going to have a greater reaction to G-Spot stimulation than other ladies. Everyone is different, remember? For some ladies, it produces little or no result. Other ladies claim an earth-shattering out of this world orgasm that resonates from deep within the body and takes them to euphoria with a side excursion to nirvana and bliss.

G-Spot Persistence Tip:
It is true for some women that G-Spot play may become more likely to result in orgasm over a period of weeks or months after first starting to experiment with it. So, if you see little or no results at first, give it some time. As the saying goes, if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.

G-Spot Orgasm Intensity Tip:
Some experts claim that G-Spot orgasm intensity may be directly related to PC muscle tone, which is another incentive for doing regular PC muscle exercises, like Kegels.

G-Spot Urge to Urinate Tip:
Any time you are stimulating the G-Spot, your lady may feel the urge to urinate. This is normal due to the fact that the G-Spot is right up against the bladder. The G-Spot is sometimes referred to as the urethral sponge, as it is the muscle underlying the urethra.

G-Spot Ejaculation Tip:
Sometimes when you stimulate the G-Spot, your lady may actually ejaculate. This is very normal. It doesn't happen every time and it doesn't happen to every lady. If it does happen, celebrate it. Don't make her feel ashamed, guilty, or embarrassed. Reassure her that it is normal and tell her that you are glad that it happened because it is evidence that you really did a great job of pleasuring her!

Perineum:
Both men and women have a perineum. In a woman, the perineum is the area between her anus and the bottom of her vulva. In slang terminology, it is sometimes called the “taint”, the “tween”, or “no man’s land”. A woman’s perineum often tears during the birthing process to accommodate the passage of the baby. The perineum is highly sensitive with a lot of nerve endings and can provide a lot of pleasure if stimulated. Try licking it, rubbing it, sucking on it, tapping on it, or massaging it to see how your lady responds.

Anus:
The anus is where solid waste exits the body. It is full of nerve endings, very highly sensitive to touch, and can be a source of great pleasure. Try stimulating it during your lovemaking, if you lady is open to the idea.

Note To The Ladies:
Ladies, You wouldn’t believe the number of guys who have never examined a woman up close and personal. No wonder most of us are not great lovers. One of the best things you can do for your guy is to let him examine your body. Guys like to know what things looks like and how they work. We are naturally curious that way. If you are shy about letting him explore your naked body, then make the room as dark as possible, lay back and get very comfortable, and then give your man a flashlight. The flashlight will let him see your body in parts instead of as a whole. This may make you feel more at ease. Letting your man explore your body is a terrific idea because it lets him learn more about it and become more familiar with it. In the long run, it is sure to make your physical relationship so much better. If you are brave, let him do it with the lights on. If you are REALLY brave, let him buy a speculum from the local adult toy shop (or he can order one online) and let him explore your insides!

CONCLUSION:
Who doesn't enjoy touching their lady, exploring every inch of her body? Having a good working knowledge of basic female anatomy is a very important part of this process.

Some men follow the same protocol each time they make love. It never hurts to experiment with new and exciting ways to touch your lady - both with your hands and with your heart. And remember, guys, sometimes the softer you touch your lady, the more she will feel it. Happy exploring!

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